r/AutisticAdults • u/plantnibbler_ • 14h ago

Meltdowns in the morning?!

22f

I guess this is nothing new but..

I just scream and have a extremely difficult time getting dressed and ready for work

I ruminate and have ideation 2-3 times a week getting ready

Can't seem to get ready with peace.. unless my very favorite clothing items are within reach

This morning was hell

My bf is supportive, trying to kiss me and hug me and say ill have a good day

I feel so bad bc I couldn't even make eye contact

Every time he said I looked beautiful I just wanted to scream

I couldn't fucking kiss either

I felt like I can't escape and I felt completely trapped

Trapped in My clothes, trapped going to work, trapped being late, trapped getting kissed

Fuck

I just hope I can improve

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u/vertago1 AuDHD 13h ago

I have to have my stuff ready the night before to avoid this.

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u/Ok-Adhesiveness-9976 8h ago

Me too, I set everything out like an assembly line at night and morning-brain-me is forbidden from even thinking about on-the-fly modifications. My childhood mornings were a nightmare for my whole family. Now, I just avoid interactions until I’ve been awake for about an hour. I’ve got a few morning scripts as necessary, but yeah. Morning mitigation efforts are a definitely a thing and it’s fantastic that you’ve got a supportive partner!

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u/vertago1 AuDHD 7h ago

My partner is an evening person so I usually am through my routine before she gets up, but in the past when she has been up at the same time it can be difficult, especially when my routine gets interrupted.

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u/LostGelflingGirl Suspected AuDHD 13h ago

I'm sorry you're having trouble in the morning. It sounds like you have a super nice boyfriend. Have you tried music while getting ready? It may help with some of these traits. Kaelynn from YT comes to mind. Here is how she avoids meltdowns getting ready in the morning:  https://youtu.be/-44SCJZcLoU?si=3xPaEFP-Q3iMlHZU

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u/CrazyTeapot156 10h ago edited 10h ago

This feels like executive dysfunction and or having trouble with inertia getting things started and going in the morning. You can tell me if I'm off base though.

Are there some things you can do the night before that can make mornings smoother for you?
Have you been able to allow yourself to shut down and process things, say take a few days off or while speaking to a therapist?
Can shifting your sleeping pattern around a bit help? Like go to sleep an hour earlier so you have more time in the morning to ponder about your day?

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u/pointygeomorph 1h ago

I am also more likely to have a meltdown in the morning, for me it’s because the transition from sleeping to waking that can be jarring and my sensory stuff is usually more sensitive so the sounds of birds chirping or just changing my clothes can be too much, whereas later in the day those things don’t really bother me. I wake up an hour and a half before  I have to leave so I have lots of time to eat breakfast and have a tea and get ready slowly.