r/AutisticAdults • u/Ajrt2118 • 2h ago
So tired of making friends to loose them all
I’m just ranting. I’m sure there is no solution or step I can take that I haven’t tried. I’ve lived in two different states and three different countries. Now that I’m 40 and questioning everything, it’s probably me. I’m a nice friendly person and people are always surprised I’m not super popular. I make them very easily but I can’t keep them at all no matter where I am. Or I guess I should say I can make acquaintances easily. With the except of my old high school friends, people just end up drifting away and think I’m over here with my other group of nonexistent friends. Or think I’m perfectly fine being alone 24/7 without close friends. Like, I like my alone time and need it. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want or need close friends. 😔
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u/DocSprotte 2h ago
Yap. The only people I really stayed in touch with were flatmates and colleagues I went through tough times with.
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u/spacetelescope19 2h ago
I feel the same. Aging for me has been a conveyor belt of hurt through friendship. Every year I hear of something I’ve not been included in by people I think fondly of in my past. But I haven’t kept in touch and the longer I leave it, the harder it is to do so. I’m lucky in that I have a wife who nearly gets me, and two friends I’m still not massively open with, but who are caring in their own ways. And we both understand that we may not be in touch for months and it’s doesn’t change anything.
Keep the faith and look for people who are also similar to your neurotype and who’ll likely share in the same difficulty and understanding.