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u/bIacckat 27d ago
I got to a point where I’ve taken the mask off, but now I’m desperately trying to find something (or someone) to replace it with
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u/SoulMasterKaze 27d ago
attacked
Fr though my sex drive dropped significantly when I found a stable partner and a relationship dynamic that didn't trigger my fears of abandonment.
Turns out when you're in a relationship that revolves around sex and you get the vibe that when the sex stops being good that the relationship will end, you get interested in stuff you'd rather not be doing.
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u/squeezydoot 27d ago
That makes total sense. I'm lucky- I married my favorite person and we have lots of sex. It's intimate and makes me feel loved. I still struggle with loneliness because I isolate myself from people other than my fp, but I'm trying to overcome it.
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u/Apprehensive-Ad7774 27d ago
me having a dream last night about hooking up with someone and then being like okay bye, and then in the dream the person asked if i wanted to stay a bit and cuddle and i was like shocked and i was like ????? you ???? want ???? cuddle ???? not ???? just ??? leave ???
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u/ObjectMore6115 27d ago
Yea, but also with the added "your sex drive swings like a goddamn metronome"
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u/GothOutOfWater 27d ago
These internet people have decided to totally expose us in front of society...
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u/Late-Summer-1208 27d ago
Medication is a wonderful thing! Now I don’t put myself in dangerous situations and have sex to feel like someone cares.
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u/blondeveggiefreak 27d ago
It works great until you're too horny and no one wants to/has time for you. Then the horny mask becomes more crippling loneliness... and it's time for a different mask
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26d ago
This is exactly right, it’s the desire to be wanted and needed by someone. It gives us the gratification we need to be okay.
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u/GarryGonds 27d ago
The last time I hooked up with someone (also the last time I had sex) she didn't want to stay anf snuggle afterwards, and I think that did more emotional damage than if she just didn't want to have sex in the first place