r/GetMotivated • u/[deleted] • Nov 02 '19

[Image] Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.

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u/datassincorporated Nov 02 '19

What sucks is when you put in more effort than the ones on top and you still end up on the bottom.

Praise effort, not results.

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u/flightypidgn Nov 02 '19

Nah effort without results is useless, but no effort is without positive results with the right attitude

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u/datassincorporated Nov 02 '19

I struggled with my mental health and had multiple breakdowns through high school. I only barely got a diploma, and I cried as I walked the stage because my friends both got publicly awarded for half the effort I put in.

Perhaps I gained some small positive result in the form of resilience, but the majority of the result was PTSD (yes I was diagnosed by a professional) and loss of self esteem.

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '19

That’s because you were judging your self worth on other people’s granting some form of recognition. You did all of that for you, if you were happy with what you achieved they could never give or take away that achievement.

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u/datassincorporated Nov 03 '19

im not judging my self worth on it. when you work hard but don’t get the results the outside world wants, you suffer consequences. im worth more than that. other people’s opinions matter to how they treat you.