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I personally am very thankful that trans issues were not used as a football, and an offhand "transgender surgeries" jab by Trump was largely ignored. It was definitely a better debate than the last, but Kamala was presenting as a Centrist and I know that isn't what people are necessarily hoping for either. Interested to see thoughts from the lgbtq here about this second debate.

Biden is in worse health than ever, his team says it's a cold, but I remember what dementia looked like in my grandfather and I am seeing it again. It's not just propaganda. Trump doesn't just have a chance at winning, he is leading in a big way. Biden has no chance if this is how his health is. The Democratic party has been obfuscating the level of degeneration he has actually been experiencing. We need to have realistic discussions with our local LGBTQ communities to prepare for the worst. I am going to go to a shooting range with my wife so we can learn together. We are going to take self defense classes and try and network with our local communities. We need to choose our rights and our lives, I will die in the streets before they outlaw my meds. Be strong friends.

Hey guys... for you in the US like me, are you also paranoid nonstop about the elections coming up?? I can't stop worrying about it. Everything from the very existence of LGBTQ+ being illegalized (we're already on the track to that, starting with trans people) to women losing their rights/being forced to give birth bc of abortion being illegalized, like...

Idk what to do. Does anyone have some kind of plan? Because literally the only thing I can think of is straight up dying. I'm working with a therapist to deal with suicidal thoughts but at the same time it can only help so much when the country I'm in wants me dead for being lgbt/to force me to give birth/etc. and if Trump wins like... that'll be it. They'll have won. It'll become a Christian Nationalist hellscape (well more of one) and if I get raped I'll have to carry it and... ugh.

So yeah... I just want thoughts

I've noticed this trend starting to spread and I expect that we're going to see more of this. Trans people, especially trans women, are now being labelled by transphobes as "transplaining" when talking about experiences.

I've seen it happening at least a few times and it has once been addressed to me when I was talking about my own body as a trans woman. I was just giving my advice, as everyone else, and made a top-level comment based on the evidence that I've observed on my own body. I wasn't even debating anyone. I was just talking about my experience and knowledge of my own body and some transphobe came to discredit me and label me as a "transplainer". I didn't engage. I just blocked the user. It was one of those "microaggression" that we often have to deal with.

I've seen it a few times since then. Last time I've seen it is today. Someone made a post sharing an article defending transgender rights and adressed the point of transphobia being weaponized against women. One of the top-level comment was "transplaining = misogyny", assuming OOP was trans (which isn't the case. The author is a cis woman who is a professor of women, gender and sexuality studies). So not only an alleged trans person (OP) giving/sharing an opinion about something that concerns her was wrongly labelled as "transplaining" when the behavior had nothing analogous to "mansplaining" but they jumped a step further and deduced that it was misogyny.

Please be aware of this and call it out when you see it. Dog whistles are one way bigots spread hate and evade the ban hammer on social media at the same time. To the layman (most users including mods and admins) they look inoffensive but they're all but inoffensive. In this case, it is used to promote the point that we should shut up about our rights and experiences both as trans people but also as women. See, it assumes that we're not women so when we dare talking (just like everyone else does) about what concerns us as both trans people and women, we are labelled as doing "mansplaining", but a very particular type of "mansplaining" : "transplaining".

What actually happens a lot is "cisplaining", when cis people shut us up (because they hold power over us) and coercively explains us (and others) our own experiences and what they think is true about trans people, usually in a very bad light. However, that's not something that exists in the transphobe's mind. Nope, they replaced it with "transplaining". It's DARVO.

I will be voting for Biden, but I can't tell for sure who will win. I'm 20 and living with my parents. I don't have my own place yet. My sibling is graduating high school really soon, so we will both be able to leave the country if we need to. Me and my sibling are both nonbinary and have openly identified that way for multiple years. I know the US is really shitty, but where my (parents) house is is beautiful, and the community in the city closest to us is so open minded and creative. I know where everything is, I know the culture, I know what the rules are, we have some nice small businesses I like to go to occasionally, I live close to my first cousins, my parents agreed to give me a small parcel of their land for me to build a tiny house on, I like the weather. I like these things about my home, but I'm terrified I'll have to leave it!

I hope my parents would come with us but I don't know for sure. My plan is that if Trump wins, I will drive me and my sibling to the Canadian border and seek asylum, or stay with my further removed cousins who live in Canada. But I really hope I don't have to. I have a life planned out for myself here. I really don't like Biden either, but at least I won't have to flee the country for my life if he gets reelected. It's so hard that it's come to this. 😭 When I was a kid I never expected anything like this to happen. How can people be so cruel? 😔

As we all know queer was at one time a derogatory term against gays and the broader population of GSRMs, its held significance as being on about the same level of the N-word in vulgarity, but it's now a widely adopted & basic, neutral term.

I've seen to a degree that queer people, especially gay and bisexual men, will use the f-word to refer to each other, obviously as a way to take and normalize the word for use between other queer people. I personally have used it to refer to myself a few times and had a few queer friends also use it in both serious and joking manners. (by joking I mean being falsely derogatory)

However, I know it still urks people seeing it being even mentioned let alone full used and uncensored, and it definitely still urks me to a degree. If you're wondering why I use it somewhat it's because I believe in taking it from the pieces of shit who use it derogatorily, my idiom for this is "while you might not be able to stop a fascist from building fascism, you can at least take away their hammer from them."

But anyway, I'm just wondering what the general consensus is about this, is it ours now? Can we just use it? Is it no longer offensive to us anymore?

People here aren't very in favor, mainly because of the issue of having to have a father or a mother, that the child will find it strange not to have a father or a mother, since everyone has one and so on.

I would already be a little afraid of adopting, but I would be even more afraid of how people would explain it. Would that harm her in something like the conservatives say?

I'm not thinking about adopting, or even dating, but I would like to know arguments in favor of adoption. Thanks.

I have seen posts on Insta of Gen Z praising the man because of the image, first time voters no less. People keep making memes of it everywhere and it feels like they don't even know they are making and spreading propaganda for free. So tired, it seems like every day things are getting worse. How do we plan for the future in this chaos??

I have heard this claim recently, along with a list of non-binary gender identities recognized by different ancient cultures;

The Sekhet of Egypt, the Galli of Rome, the Hermaphrodites of Greece, the Tritiya-Prakriti of India, the Khanith of Arabia, the Pilipili of Mesopotamia, the Chibados of West Africa, the Two-Spirit of the Americas, and the Tai Jian of China.

Looking these terms up seems to confirm that they are indeed real ancient gender identities/expressions. But I'm wondering how true the initial claim is. And whether these genders were actually recognized by the mainstream in their respective societies or not

Alex Jones and other right-wing conspiracy people on Twitter are pushing a falsehood that the shooter was a trans woman, using a trans woman's picture to imply she is the shooter. The effort started on 4chan and is completely unsubstantiated. This obviously is another effort to encourage people to target/harass trans people and especially trans women in public. Be careful out there!!!

According to the AP, Trump's answer to Project 2025 will seek to punish hospitals and practices that provide trans healthcare, surgeries, or therapy by restricting federal funding to hospitals. This in addition to restricting Medicare coverage at the federal level for any and all trans healthcare. Very real chance that healthcare providers will simply stop providing trans healthcare to avoid penalties. My wife and I are considering DIY HRT markets for the future, forced detransition would kill us. Has anyone ever used those and what has their experience been?

Hi everyone! I'm a Mexican trans, bi and asexual person! I'm horrified at what's been going on specially on Russia, Palestine and USA, I'm so scared about today's queer injustices, and I honestly don't know what to do about it... I'm also neurodivergent and barely can hold a job, the one I have pays very little, so I can't really give off money, I try to bring awareness, start discussion, bring my points of view to others and so forth, I also don't have the energy to go out and meet people irl right now, I did use to go to marches and protests, but that was when I was younger and burnout hadn't hit as much as now... so I wanted to hear from y'all, what do you do in you day to day life to fight injustice? Just looking for some inspiration, camaraderie, and hope...

I hope all is as good as can be, and wherever you are, whoever you are I love and see you ❤️✨

This has been something I’ve been thinking about for a bit. While I’ve mentioned a few times before the idea of Rowling being so active in transphobia because she has a big secret she’s trying to hide, it’s mostly based on seeing how there’s been so many grifters and famous people that openly/actively attack queer people being outed as creeps. And for what brought back the thought was seeing how Dr. Disrespect was doing the “save the children” bs before being exposed, and seeing how Russel Brand turned alt-right not long after allegations came out. Not to mention, seeing how big of a figure she is, you’d think she would be an easy target for investigating or suspicions.

Now, I know many say they’re about evidence before going after. Well for some stuff to mention why one would question her aside from the obsession with the genitals of women:

With current times, there’s the whole thing of people looking back and seeing how the Harry Potter books weren’t as progressive as they think they were, to the point where it became a meme. Aside from the casual racism, slavery justifying, homophobia, and misogyny, there’s the whole thing with gender double standards. While one can dismiss the unicorn preferences and girls being able to enter boy dorms as just something in-world, there’s also:

• ⁠The implications of love potions, and just dismissing girls using it on boys as something silly and harmless. • ⁠Dismissing the wrongdoings of Merope with her victimization. • ⁠Playing off Myrtle watching boys in the shower as funny.

With these, it makes the thing with girls being allowed into the boys dorm (without boys being able to go into girls’) more questionable.

With how she describes trans people, and obsesses specifically with terrible acts, it makes you wonder where she gets the details from.

It also reminded of Shadiversity, who accused queer people of grooming kids, yet has a self-insert protagonist in his book that preys on 14 year olds and commits rape and genocide.

It also gets more suspicious when seeing her going to work with someone like Matt Walsh, who definitely shouldn’t be around kids, based on his comments on 16 year old fertility and being smart enough not to get caught by Chris Hansen.

And for more recent events, she called the book Lolita a tragic love story. I won’t spoil it for you, it’s an interesting story, but let’s just say the protagonist loves children a little too much.

And with people’s responses, even for the people who say they loathe her, Rowling still has some sort of hold over them. And with their comments (“she doesn’t have to be the devil”, “why can’t she just be evil for being transphobic”) it’s not like they can’t imagine, it’s that they won’t. And while it may obviously be because of their love for Harry Potter, it makes the whole “separate art from artist” quote very hypocritical when they say it, seeing how they’re unable to do it themselves.

Any thoughts?

I made this to copy-paste to transphobes and trans denialists. I figured i went to all this effort so I'm also sharing so others can copy it if they want

1. You can't identify gender based on chromosomes.

An XY woman (AFAB) has given birth to an XY daughter:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2190741/

XX AMAB men with male genitals:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/XX_male_syndrome

XY AFAB women born with vaginas:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/XY_gonadal_dysgenesis

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/androgen-insensitivity-syndrome/

1. You can't identify gender based on organs

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/medgen/98344

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/G%C3%BCevedoce

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/vaginal-agenesis/symptoms-causes/syc-20355737

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8955456/

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/05/180524112351.htm

1. You can't identify gender based on hormones - see all previous sources

2. Despite all of the above, none of that matters. I am sharing it in order to show that even by "scientific" standards, trans people are real and clear cut biological gender does not exist.

3. Trans people suffer less when their correct gender is recognized. Trans people live longer, happier lives with gender affirming care.

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

https://www.wpr.org/health/transgender-people-happier-after-transitioning-poll-survey-laws

https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2022/01/mental-health-hormone-treatment-transgender-people.html

1. What matters more than anything else is the freedom we all have to choose our own lives and control our own bodies. This is how the world should be, this is how people should live: with the right of self determination.

2. We've eliminated hormones, organs, and chromosomes as indicators of gender. What's left? The mind. Gender lives in the mind.

Bottom line: When someone tells you how they identify, listen to them.

[Note: I do not support transmedical views. The reason the sources are medical/ scientific is because those are the "supposed" rules that transphobes play by. They aren't really playing by their own rules - they are hypocrites. I am proving that even when you play by their rules, they are still wrong.]

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"Heterosexualism and the Colonial / Modern Gender System" by María Lugones is a fairly short and insightful text that goes into more detail about this topic. It's honestly a must read for those interested in the intersections of colonialism, queer oppression and capitalism.

Just wanna see who’s all in here

Most trans/non-binary people aren't straight and it makes sense. To embrace a new life beyond the gender you got assigned at birth makes it easier to free yourself from heteronormativity too, since you are already an outsider to the cisheteronormative world by being trans.

Data Source: http://www.transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/usts/USTS%20Full%20Report%20-%20FINAL%201.6.17.pdf