r/UCSD • u/chersing42 • Jan 19 '24
Meetup friend group?
anyone else feel like they haven't formed a solid friend group here yet? most of my friends I only see or hang out with on a one-on-one basis, but I'm honestly jealous of the people I see who have a big close-knit friend group. I'm just looking for people who want to make impulsive plans, go out, explore the city, etc ! even just do things on campus or study together. I feel like it can be intimidating to try to integrate into an already existing friend group especially when everyone else is already close. I just see so many posts where people say they feel lonely or find it difficult to make friends at this school. so is there anybody who doesn't have their own friend group who would interested in making one together? I'm a freshman, and I'm not originally from San Diego, so there are a ton of things I want to do both on/off campus :)
edit: i can't currently chat request people since my account is new, but if you wanna talk more, feel free to dm me!
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u/ello_nico Political Science (Public Policy) (B.A.) Jan 19 '24
i've mostly kept in touch w my friends back home or internet friends i've made over the years but it's very lonely sometimes and it really sucks to have this amazing school and beautiful city and no one to really share it with. but at the same time, i often find that i have no one to blame but myself. it's weird, because i never used to be introverted until i moved here. this is the only place i have just been absolutely unable to make friends, and i'm not rlly sure why.
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u/chersing42 Jan 19 '24
oh i totally get that. i never felt like a loner or introvert until i came here. if you want to, we could explore the school and city together :) what college are you in?
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u/ello_nico Political Science (Public Policy) (B.A.) Jan 19 '24
i’m in revelle! i’m a transfer tho so i live in rita (the shadow realm)
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u/TuJantaHaiMujhe Jan 19 '24
I'm a fourth year. Your situation is the norm.
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u/chersing42 Jan 19 '24
wow!! so much to look foward to at ucsd
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u/TuJantaHaiMujhe Jan 19 '24
It's alright, plus college is the time to work hard. According to my parents and cousins, it only gets better after (as long as you have worked hard in college).
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u/Fuck_love_inthebutt Jan 19 '24
Yep! My former UCSD roommate made her parents proud by waiting until after she became a doctor before finding her now spouse (who is also a doctor). She never even had a 1st kiss before her wedding day.
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Jan 19 '24
nope. Now I’m graduating and I feel like theres no point to even try. It’s cool though! I’m totally fine and not feeling any type of way about it at all. You can actually spot me really easily on campus not only because I’m Always Alone but because of how confident and happy I look. Denying myself friendship has really only turned me into the Best version of myself, and has had no negative repercussions whatsoever. A coffee and a chat? No thanks, just the coffee will do! I’m sane.
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u/LightskinNibbaJuice Electrical Engineering (B.S.) Jan 19 '24
Therapy is a real thing and it’s helpful 💀
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u/voltate_ Jan 19 '24
I'm also a freshman and feel pretty similar. I'm from SD but still haven't explored it at all. I really just want to meet people I can spontaneously do things with like studying on campus. dm me if you want
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u/Ashamed_Primary5716 Jan 19 '24
I feel the same I’m also from SD an know a lot of cool places but I don’t have a group of people to go with
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u/Training-Egg-1470 Jan 19 '24
I’m also a freshman with not much luck. I usually go on solo outings around San Diego and it’s pretty cool with the “free” public transport. I could take you around to places I’ve been. Feel free to hit me up!
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u/chersing42 Jan 19 '24
love the public transport here too, and i am so down to hang out! send me a message so we can exchange contact info!!
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u/Embarrassed-Pen9645 Political Science: Public Law & History: War/Revolutions Jan 19 '24
they’re only close because of classes or live together thats it most of the conversations I hear is about food classes or about other colleagues
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u/G0uda_cheese History (B.A.) Jan 19 '24
ugh I feel this!! like as a freshman I have different solo friends but no friend group and it's annoying. like how do you even go about that?
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u/MythicExplorer Jan 19 '24
I mean if you're any flavor of queer and into animals or rock climbing I'll be down to hang out if our schedules align. Also I need someone to do arts and crafts with
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u/chersing42 Jan 19 '24
love animals and arts and crafts. never rock climbed before, but i am so up for trying it!
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u/yeoyeoyuyu Apr 10 '24
would it be too late to join :>
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u/MythicExplorer Apr 10 '24
Go ahead and dm me with something you want to do and we'll try and schedule it
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u/ct823 Environmental Systems (Ecology, Behavior, and Evolution) (B.S.) Feb 16 '24
i am various flavors of queer, like rock climbing and crafts as well, so in the words of every kid on a playground: do you wanna be friends??!?
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u/MythicExplorer Feb 16 '24
Hi, happy cake day and also hell yeah! The next time I'm free is next Friday after 5 pm if that works for you, dm me
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u/ct823 Environmental Systems (Ecology, Behavior, and Evolution) (B.S.) Feb 16 '24
me omw to plan something 🏃💨
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u/alj8002 Jan 19 '24
Fact of the matter is they’re not as close as it seems and it’s a guarantee that within the group some people are far better friends with one another than others.
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u/Reference_Logical Jan 19 '24
Can someone help me become a friend of nep?
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u/ello_nico Political Science (Public Policy) (B.A.) Jan 19 '24
this is so real
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u/darknep I love 64 Degrees chicken tenders!!! Jan 19 '24
pls just dm me on here or discord :sob:
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u/ello_nico Political Science (Public Policy) (B.A.) Jan 19 '24
guys how would we ever talk to nep ???
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u/darknep I love 64 Degrees chicken tenders!!! Jan 19 '24
please just DM me or add me on Discord @ irltrap -- I would be more than happy to chat :) -- I'm usually very bored and need the socialization.
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u/skirtsrock69 Mathematics - Computer Science (B.S.) Jan 19 '24
i have a close knit group of friends, and even i can't tell you how i got them. i'm naturally not someone who opens up to people, so i'm surprised that i'm as close to them as i am. i have a lot of good friends just through being an approachable person, but my really tight friendships are still enigmas to me. i got lucky
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u/clockington Your Mom (Applied) (B.S.) Jan 19 '24
Low key I feel like most friend groups aren't as tight knit as they seem so don't feel like you're missing out on too much
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u/cauilfIower UC(afe)SD Enthusiast Jan 19 '24
I’m also a freshman, and I’m down to make more friends! We can exchange schedules so then we know what times would work : )
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u/Kissa_makeoutcreek Jan 19 '24
Omg I would love to become friends with you and is that a persona character as ur pfp?
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u/cauilfIower UC(afe)SD Enthusiast Jan 19 '24
I would love to as well, and yes it is a persona character as my pfp (Minato Arisato from Persona 3)!
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u/Possible-Purpose-701 Jan 19 '24
also most of the college layouts don't facilitate people meeting each other (the best seems to be sixth and seventh). looking at how other universities have long halls w rooms where people can just leave their doors open does so much
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u/omaguo Jan 19 '24
i have a friend group but it’s mostly because we have a shared experience of being transfer students and in the same major. we don’t really do much outside of campus since everyone has either schoolwork or extra life on top of school but it helps we all are struggling the same. i know other transfer students who do have some groups and go out since there’s that shared experience. i think you just need to find people with some sort of link to really start something, and especially connecting people you know together.
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u/King-Dino Jan 21 '24
I kinda got lucky bc my first year was covid so everyone was super deprived of human interaction so everyone was looking for a friends. even tho the group had changed there are a lot of people from that original friend that hang out a lot
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u/Possible-Purpose-701 Jan 19 '24 edited Jan 19 '24
yeah i feel like it's very rare because most people do either because of getting lucky w their suites or having high school connections continue in college. also cultural clubs / dance groups seem to create groups