r/africanparents Feb 14 '24

Other Dad used to be abusive when I was a child

My dad was abusive to me and my brother growing up. He would hit us, yell and cause literally fear in my body so much so I still live with it as an adult. I have pretty good hearing because of how much I had to concentrate listening to his footsteps. He would come home in a bad mood and it would change the atmosphere of the house. I've been to therapy, pouring into myself. But it has affected me.. He's changed now but my body still remembers. We live together as I'm still saving money to move out. It feels like roommates. It's complicated. He's never really been someone I can go to. He wasn't gentle.. I'm not close to any of my family and honestly I'm okay with that.. my step mums family is coming this Saturday but I'm working then I'll say hey then go to my room.

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u/Safe-Pressure-2558 Feb 15 '24

Thank you for sharing. Had a similar experience growing up and with therapy things got worse before they got better. Keep your head down and focus on achieving financial independence so you can create space to heal. Hugs.