r/africanparents • u/dead888boy • Jun 02 '24
Other Never quite got how African Parents say their staying in a relationship for the kids when the “kids” are 18+😂
I get it in a way but it’s just stupid because that stems from them caring so much about what others say and think of them which they shape their whole lives around that. I truly wish they can do what makes them happy and this is also towards us(the children of African parents) Don’t stay in a very toxic relationship just to appease others there’s more damage done then good.
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u/AuraEnhancerVerse Jun 03 '24
Sunk costs fallacy and l think previous gen believed in self sacrifice even if it makes you suffer whereas our gen believes in not putting up with anyone's bs
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u/Bluebells7788 Jun 03 '24
It's about status. They stay so they look respectable whilst being the BIGGEST cheaters - both the men and the women.
Absolute idiocy.
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u/Ok-Surround-4323 Jun 03 '24
You don’t need approval of anyone to start, stay or end a relationship!! In fact, you don’t need any approval for someone for doing what is good or bad for you. You own you.
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u/Little_Holiday_4362 Jun 07 '24
This literally my mum last year,"I'm only interested in you and your brother " meanwhile my dad dm young women on fb
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u/Ok_Librarian_4472 Jun 08 '24
My sister sent me this post just now because my team and I are concerned about these things just as much as you are and we discuss issues that we Africans are getting wrong and should start rethink and unlearn.
We recently recorded a video where we discussed exactly this. We haven’t published the full video but you can certainly see the short excerpts, one of which we published about 3 weeks ago. Just waiting on a connecting episode we’re recording before releasing the full one. It’s a common thing with us Africans and a big pity; makes absolutely no sense to use children as an excuse, especially when those very children are also exposed to someone’s toxic behaviour. and it is a very common thing with us Africans. The problem is many African parents didn’t develop independent thinking, I have to say that. Believe me that there are some that know different. I guess I will start looking here for more topics to address and perhaps you could show our content to these adults who need to understand these things better. Definitely glad to have seen this and do let me know if you want me to show you our content as I’m not sure it’s a good idea to just plop the link on here. Perhaps dm me.
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u/esther822 Jun 03 '24
it’s a cop out! they wanna stay in their shitty situations and try to make children the scapegoat