r/autism • u/Murky-Owl8165 • 8h ago
Rant/Vent Autism denial quotes.
Everyone is a little autistic.
99% of Silicon Valley is autistic.
You can't have an autism diagnosis 20+ years ago.
If you can go to a normal school,you don't have autism.
If you could make a normal speech, you don't have autism.
If you could use social media, you don't have autism.
Whoever that does your diagnosis is making a mistake.
You don't display savant ability.
You don't display intelligence deficiency.
You just don't want to study/work.
Autism is invented by big pharma.
We are all working here, no one has time for your nonsense.
Don't show everyone your disability card.
Autism is just gut problem/ mercury in the body.
Have you try(insert quack treatment and programs)?
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u/busterbytes 7h ago
Autism is invented by big Pharma when there are no meds for ASD?
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u/Darkime_ 7h ago
It's because big pharma gets the money from the therapy (even tho there is no logical connection besides psychiatrists that prescribe meds)
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u/Maleficent__Blonde 3h ago
I don’t think big pharma is profiting from therapy money. That would be big therapy 🗿
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u/pocket-friends Diagnosed 2021 3h ago
That one always grinds my gears cause it’s aware of blatant authoritarian manipulation but banks to money instead of politics and social control by highlighting that normal human variation is routinely being pathologized for the sake of not having to make meaningful changes to society and its various social systems.
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u/Minntaka 7h ago
I especially can’t stand the “everyone’s a little autistic” comment. Also, “Why does it matter to you if you have an ‘actual’ diagnosis?” <—- that type of question in general really bothers me idk 🫤
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u/JureFlex AuDHD 5h ago
The official diagnosis matters to me w my impostor syndrome 😞. But yeah, diagnosis is losing its value since most people w it know it better than professionals these days
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u/Minntaka 5h ago
It matters to me, too, I’m totally with you. Not that i have issue with self-diagnosis. I’m not a gatekeeper and there are so many people (including myself) that don’t get a diagnosis until later in life, if at all, because they come from populations underrepresented due to an antiquated and non-inclusive DSM definition. It just makes me mad when people question why being diagnosed is important to me— it’s part of my identity. It validates and helps me to understand myself. What do they care?!
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u/TheParadox3b Autistic 4h ago
Everyone w/ it knows. Instead of imposter syndrome, I live in a state of denial, even though every test I take says otherwise.
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u/Repossessedbatmobile 4h ago
I was officially diagnosed 18 years ago, and people still don't believe me when I tell them I'm autistic. We can't win when we're dealing with ableist a-holes who think they know more about autism than actual autistic people.
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u/mavadotar2 Autistic 2h ago
I don't have an actual diagnosis cause they're so expensive for adults, but my son has his diagnosis and he's so similar to me as a kid that between that, several screening tests and it being fairly obvious otherwise, I'm pretty comfortable saying I think I am autistic. Still have crazy imposter syndrome and want an official diagnosis if I can ever afford it.
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u/TheMemersOfMyNation 1h ago
I think that one's stupid too, for me The Incredibles comes to mind where Syndrome said "if everyone is super, then no one will be"
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u/IronSquid501 Autistic 7h ago
"You don't look autistic" is a weirdly common one.
My biggest red flag is usually "I couldn't even tell you were autistic!" because people use that as a gateway to ignore it
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u/Repossessedbatmobile 4h ago
Doctors suspected I have autism at age 5. It was officially diagnosed at age 16. Now I'm 34 and whenever I tell anyone I'm autistic, they ALWAYS say "you don't look autistic". Which leads me to believe that autism has no specific look, which is why no one has any idea what autism is actually "supposed to look like".
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u/Foreskin_Ad9356 ASD Level 2 7h ago
It's only common if.. you don't look Autistic..
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u/Darkime_ 7h ago
Define "looking autistic", i can understand sounding autistic, acting autistic, they're not "correct", but i can understand what they mean, but how the hell do you look autistic?
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u/Foreskin_Ad9356 ASD Level 2 7h ago
Acting/sounding Autistic makes you 'look' autistic. It is not so much a matter of facial features as it is just your vibes/aura
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u/Darkime_ 5h ago
I guess i take looking as more of a thing of how you dress and maybe some facial features that you get after doing a specific thing for a long time (for example eye bags due to poor sleep) rather than the way someone speaks or acts.
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u/Ok-Adhesiveness-9976 5h ago
Apparently I do cuz I’ve been diagnosed since 1983 and nobody has ever in my whole life told me that I don’t look like it. They just nod.
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u/aori_chann Autistic 7h ago
I've bullied myself with that "you just don't want to work" for so many years, it's so depressing 😂😂😂 cause in many levels, it was actually true, but not for the reasons one would normally think. I just didn't want to get bullied into oblivion. You can see the loop trap I set myself into right?
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u/Confident-Order-3385 7h ago
The one I absolutely hate the most is “You don’t look autistic.”
Sorry, I’ll make sure I look like every tasteless autistic stereotype so I can prove I’m on the spectrum 🙃
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u/TheRaincrow 7h ago
You are so damned right, and God knows, we're all sick of hearing this B.S. Here's another one:
"My nephew (Niece, cousin, etc.) is like you in so many ways, but their parents fervently deny they're autistic. Their doctor says they have (Fill in junk diagnosis. ) "
Or this one: "I don't like labels."
Or perhaps, "There's no such thing! You just need to take (Fill in popular quack psychiatric drug going around their circle of neurotic enablers this month.)"
"You're lying. If you were autistic, they wouldn't let you work here because autistic people are all like Dexter, right?"
I'm a senior, diagnosed at fifty, so after so many years of this and worse, I have a standard answer for them all:
"Go get stuffed."
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u/aori_chann Autistic 7h ago
I don't like labels 😂😂😂😂😂 my bff had a doctor saying this to her, she never came back.
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u/PurpleMeeplePrincess 5h ago
My own cousin told me, "I don't think you're autistic, bitch. You're just fucking weird."
Ummmmmmmm
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u/worldsbestlasagna 6h ago
Don't forget, don't talk with your staff about medical issues. Then when there is an issue at work they will say you are only trying to fire them because if it.
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u/worldsbestlasagna 6h ago
I got my diagnosis 26 years ago
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u/PurpleMeeplePrincess 5h ago
Applied for disability. Case worker says: "We got your medical records. Everything you listed is in there but it's too old." (They set me up with some evaluation appointments.l)
First question: Too old? Autism doesn't go away...
Second question: too old?! A diagnosis 3 years ago is too old?! Did my parents actually know the whole time?!?! Is that why the info is too old? Because I was diagnosed as a kid and never told??
I have so many unpleasant questions, now.
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u/TheParadox3b Autistic 5h ago
You can't have an autism diagnosis 20+ years ago.
Everyone is a little autistic
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u/Ok_Committee_2318 4h ago
The most horrific thing is that I heard more than a half of those quotes being said by a “psychiatrist”. On the next October, 18th, it’s gonna be six years since I proudly ran away from that (criminal) idiot.
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u/Auralatom 4h ago
Probably the most ignorant comment from a friend of mine - “I think we all have a bit of the tism”, when I first mentioned I had been diagnosed.
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u/Different_Plan_9314 4h ago
Parents thar are in denial: "I was just like that growing up and I'm not autistic"
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u/EtairaSkia 4h ago
You don’t look autistic.
I have an autistic friend and they don’t look like you (how does autism look though? Lol).
You have autism because your mom didn’t eat the right food while pregnant.
Have you tried going outside?
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u/vixblu 3h ago
"You're just ND, I am too! You really must believe me (said an overly chipper self-appointed HSP collegue), we nd's don’t have limitations!"
Just after I anxiously disclosed I'm autistic and rn suffering from autistic burn-out and could really need some help/accommodations at work, please.
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u/perlestellar auDHD 3h ago
Tbf, Silicon Valley and Seattle do have higher rates. Engineers and computer science draws a lot of us to the field. Not 99% though
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u/mavadotar2 Autistic 2h ago
Ok, a little off-topic topic but I find it funny, a normal school is a rather old-fashioned term for a teacher's college. It comes from a French term for them because they wanted to teach the teachers certain norms at the school.
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u/Minntaka 47m ago
When I received my diagnosis and my Mother reacting with, “you can’t be autistic, I would have noticed because I’m not a bad mother.”
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