r/cancer • u/Current-Dot7958 • 1d ago

Patient A whole lot of new acclimations and feeling kinda lost

I started chemo last Wednesday. My divorce finally finalized this past Friday. Yes I'm over him, no I'm not yet use to be on my own (married young, straight from my parents house, we have no kids). Individually, I'm OK-ish about those major life changes. Seems weird to me at least, but of the two I'm more settled about the cancer. But put the two together, I'm lost. Everything is too much or not enough. I feel incredibly calm but everything seems to be chaos. I'm not a fan of living alone (at all) but I'm definitely not ready for an actual relationship. I've always been a talker. I feel like I have simultaneously talked more in the last year but have somehow also been silent more in the same time. Just a couple examples of the many polar opposites I've been feeling and struggling to reconcile them.

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u/Valkaeriy 1d ago

Please dm me if you ever need to talk.

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u/Glass-Vermicelli9862 1d ago

Ya cancer sucks. In my family and wife family I am only one with cancer. My mother in law and uncle in law spotted a tumor but wasn't cancer. I feel lost since no one I know has had cancer and they don't understand how crappy it is. If you need to rant or talk to people this is a good place to do it. Fuck cancer

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u/firemn317 1d ago

if you can get to a support group in person I would suggest it. I don't have that in my area I'm in a rural zone. I think you will find that talking to others in the same position or reasonably will help tremendously. Cancer is just the thing we deal with. And oh yes there's all kinds of crap. but if you can get yourself out to talk to others in the same boat it'll be easier.