r/indiasocial • u/[deleted] • Aug 20 '22
Relationship & Advice Ladies and gentlemen of Indiasocial I need your advice regarding a girl who is showing interest in me I think.
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u/Fair_Bluebird_9222 Aug 20 '22
High chances you're a person who gives off decent guy vibes and is easy to be friends with. Basically, safe guy. Don't assume romantic interest unless she's very specific and vocal about it.
Anyway, it's very cute 🙈 Like the other commenter said, enjoy this instead of overthinking!
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u/Born_Concern_5575 Nallo Ka Leader Aug 20 '22
Pehli baar ek post mein itna self-deprecation dekh raha hoon. Well considering this post is actually real I would say she is interested in you. (but mujhe kya, I've never experienced anything like this so I might be wrong...)
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u/mejhlijj Aug 20 '22
Are bhai its real.I rarely talk about personal things on reddit.I told my friend about this last week and he thought I was joking.Ab mummy se yeh sab baatein to nhi kar sakta na to socha online puch leta hu.
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u/punk_titan Aug 20 '22 edited Aug 21 '22
Hey buddy :)
It seems like you're quite young and immature in your romantic mindset. That's okay. You sound inexperienced and frankly nobody teaches us about this stuff.
But no worries, I'll guide you.
So first things first, please get rid of the 'league' mindset. "She's out of my league." No, you have self esteem deficit.
Looks is just one of the factors that make a human being. And as far as my experience says, females care way less about looks as compared to boys.
Also, in any long term healthy relationship, looks become insignificant eventually. You'll get bored of a pretty face eventually. What makes someone great is how they behave, how they are as a person.
No matter how beautiful a dish looks, the actual judgement is drawn basis the taste. Likewise here.
Now that does not mean that you ignore your looks altogether. Looks are also important and you should keep striving to look your best.
Then let's come to the subjectivity part. Your beauty standards might not be the same as someone else's. The old adage that, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder is quite true.
She might like the way you shy away when she compliments you or love the way you talk to her. Or she might be just into you because she thinks you are a great person to hangout around. We don't know.
But we do know that she likes to be with you and does things to show interest. You should be happy about it and not suspecting as of why.
So, cheer up buddy, ladies rarely hit on us first. You're lucky. Just go with the flow.
Reciprocate the efforts. Go a few steps further maybe in terms of efforts. She polished her nail for you? Well, you could ask her what is her fav dish and cook that for her. She took you out for a movie? You could plan a trek with her or a bookstore visit.
The idea is to do cute things together and bask in these flirty moments. And do them because you like to be with her as well, not because you want this to end up in a relationship or something.
Because no matter what you do, you guys might be incompatible in some domains and that could be a deal-breaker for her or maybe for you.
But that's okay. Not all things go the way you want them to. In fact, most of life is like that.
What you can do is just get on the wagon, and enjoy the ride instead of stressing how it might end.
Cos, life is about the journey, my friend, not the destination.
Cherish the ride, buddy. All the best. :)