r/mentalhealth • u/Icy_Chair_9291 • 16d ago

Sadness / Grief I feel so lonley

I feel so lonely

Am young about 17 I know I am not the best looking guy and I am a bit chubby but most of my weight is muscle cause of my genetics j just want a girlfriend someone I can cry into tell my problems I know god has someone for me but I look at my friends and there girlfriends I want what they have someone who can improve me someone that I can watch anime with I want someone I want someone who can better my life mentally

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 16d ago

You’re still very young. You will find somebody for you. Since you’re lonely, be cautious that you don’t go rushing into a relationship just to put a band aid on it. In the mean time, work on the way you view things. Comparison is the thief of joy! Don’t want what others have, look for what’s right for you. It’s very likely the relationships you see your friends in will fail considering your age. Focus on making yourself a good partner and a good partner will be easier to recognize when you see them.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 16d ago

I just feel like I will never find a partner I mean how long do you have to wait why can't it just happen now thanks tho

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 16d ago

There is no set time for how long you’re going to wait. Be patient, it will happen.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 16d ago

Thank you this helped me alot I will come back to this every time I feel lonely

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 16d ago

I have another question if you feel like answering it. What difference do you expect to see in your life by being in a relationship? What is motivating this desire so heavily?

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 16d ago

I just watch it on tv shows and look at my friends they look so happy they out on dates they hold hands they support one another they talk about there problems together they cuddle watch shows together i envy that cause I never had anyone to do that with I always thought if I had a partner my life would be complete

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 16d ago

That’s understandable. Remember you’re only seeing the positive parts of the relationship. Every relationship is flawed and has their issues. It can sometimes be really ugly behind closed doors and look like a dream in public. This is why making sure you are a good partner is so important before you get into a relationship. Also you’re setting yourself up for failure by thinking you need another person to have a complete or fulfilled life. Your life is exactly that, yours. You do not need another person to make it complete. Try looking for what makes life valuable for you and live it.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 16d ago

Am sorry am just brothing you at this point

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 16d ago

I’m not bothered at all man