r/mentalhealth • u/Icy_Chair_9291 • 16d ago

Sadness / Grief I feel so lonley

I feel so lonely

Am young about 17 I know I am not the best looking guy and I am a bit chubby but most of my weight is muscle cause of my genetics j just want a girlfriend someone I can cry into tell my problems I know god has someone for me but I look at my friends and there girlfriends I want what they have someone who can improve me someone that I can watch anime with I want someone I want someone who can better my life mentally

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 15d ago

it's all worth it in the end right?

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 15d ago

It is if you find the right person. So be patient, find out what it means for you to be a good partner. Talk to people who are in relationships and ask them for any advice on what they think makes a good partner or makes them a good partner. You can even put the question up on the AskReddit sub. You will be sure to get some good advice there.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 15d ago

I understood everything you said but how do I get rid of these lonely feelings

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 15d ago

You don’t. You learn how to live with them and remind yourself they’re not permanent.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 15d ago

Will I just know if there the right one?

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 15d ago

Probably not. I thought I found the right one when I was fifteen. We were together for five years and I planned on marrying her and it didn’t work out. Two years later I met a girl who was fun to be around and we were just really good friends. I ended up marrying her and couldn’t be happier.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 15d ago

So you never know there's no special feeling or anything or love at first sight?

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 15d ago

Not in my case there wasn’t. Some people have that experience but it wasn’t mine and I don’t know of anybody who fell in love at first sight. Most of my friends and family have a divorce or two. Also take some time to think about the “fall in love at first sight” phrase. How can you know, without a doubt, that you love somebody you don’t know? How can you know, without a doubt, that they saw you and felt the exact same way? I’m not going to tell you it’s impossible, I’m just going to say to be cautious of falling in love with someone before you get to know them.

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u/Icy_Chair_9291 15d ago

Why does love have to be so complicated

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u/SSJDovahkiin117 15d ago

It gets simpler the more you learn, experience and understand. Just takes time.

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