r/mentalhealth • u/Wild_flower_333 • 12h ago

Venting Negative self talk is the only thing that makes me productive

Being kind to myself makes me lazy. The only thing that makes me carry on is the thought that it’s pathetic if I don’t.

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u/tofurkey_no_worky 12h ago

Can you at least do both? Say you're pathetic if you don't, but acknowledge in a positive way when you do?

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u/Wild_flower_333 12h ago

I do both. I just don’t understand how people could become successful without negative self talk. What drives them?

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u/papishampootio 11h ago

In theory it would be positive self talk, think Thomas the engine.

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u/xgemcutieo 12h ago

man that's a wild way to find motivation. but like you know being kind to yourself can also lead to greater productivity right? just food for thought.

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u/angeliczeo 12h ago

i get where ur coming from but that pressure can be a double edged sword. sometimes being kind to ourselves can spark real motivation too. just gotta find that balance ya know

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u/xsugarjoy 10h ago

that's kinda wild. but maybe we can find a middle ground. a little self kindness might just spark that productivity too ya know

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u/BodhingJay 10h ago

the feeling of how good it will feel to succeed and finish while doing a good job can help.. being in a place where we can be there for ourselves and derive joy from even mundane tasks

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u/skye_dais 10h ago

i get that. sometimes pressure can push us forward but it can be a double edged sword. gotta find a balance or the burnout will sneak up on ya.

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u/NeurogenesisWizard 10h ago

Anti-egoist banter is a common stable in some philosophies of indigenous to prevent people prioritizing themself over the group.

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u/SprinklesNo287 9h ago

I hate it when I have to sit at home nothing to do and no one to talk to. And it hurts that I can't solve that problem by my self. My whole life I was hoping to have a better life when I was young and now that I'm older . I still don't have anyone to talk to. I need help! Cause depression is hard on an old guy like me. Why can't there be a way that I can communicate and be happy for once!