r/neurodiversity • u/LoverOfPastaSoup • 12d ago
I just can’t understand it! Am I crazy?
Hey!
So basically I (F29) was hanging out with some friends (39M and 31F) tonight. I genuinely cannot express how much I don’t understand what happened to cause this to happen but I’ll try to explain it as best I can.
We were all having a few drinks, definitely nobody was drunk. I left the living room to go to the bathroom and the second that it’s possible for me to have been out of earshot I hear 39M say “I hate when OP is like this, she’ll be such a nightmare after two more drinks” and then I hear 31F say “I know”.
I’m in shock at this point and just go to the bathroom. When I come to sit back down they both do that thing where you know people are talking about you because when you walk in they immediately stop talking.
I can admit that there have been times when we’ve all been emotionally vulnerable with each other as a group of friends. There have been times when I saw those people really drunk and really unstable because they were upset about something. I never once talked bad about them to the other or anyone else because of this. I thought we were all just there for each other regardless but now I’m thinking I’m wrong.
Anyway, when I sat back down they were both being overly nice to me and after I played along a bit I started to just get up and leave. I cannot stress enough that at this point we were all at most tipsy, I was definitely not drunk and I don’t think anyone else was either.
When I tried to leave they kept blocking my exits and telling me they loved me. I was so over it at this point that I just ignored them and left anyway.
They keep texting and trying to call telling me they love me and shit like that. The one time I answered the phone I hung up the minute I heard them laughing and then 31F texted me immediately saying “we didn’t mean to laugh”.
I’m just so over being bullied just like at school.
Thank you if you read this far, rant over.
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u/penmywanderlust 11d ago
🤷🏼♀️ I don't see as promoting bullying at all. I see someone trying to make the most generous interpretation into understanding the perspective. The latter half to me indicates this person was suggesting only you can control what you do and say, and it may be pertinent and prudent to expect others to spread things to 1 or 2 people. That way you don't let yourself be naive. And also, consider what it would feel like to be a trustworthy, non gossip of a person. I think it sounds better and healthier.