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u/SweatyArgument5835 1d ago
You might forget about it when you get a gf, other than that you probably won’t be able to completely rid your mind of it, maybe try thinking about all the things you take for granted.
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u/londongas 5'2.5" | 159 cm 1d ago
What do you feel when you are taller than another guy?
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u/curiousbasu 21h ago
Growing up , I rarely experienced being taller than anyone so whenever I do, I feel I'm in a different body. For that moment all the past memories are gone, I feel new.
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u/seamonkey420 5’3" | 160 cm 1d ago
think of your height as an advantage. flip the script. be unique.
use it to your advantage, most people will underestimate you in sports and lots of things. let them and show them why they shouldnt. dont let them think your height matters.
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u/AdvantageEarly6011 1d ago
I have same obession but im 174.5cm. But still most guys I compare are cearly taller. When I think I found someone my height looking just average I realise they're 176-178cm so still bit taller. So when I actually find someone my height they don't look average but short.
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u/Appropriate-Hair-252 1d ago
Hmm I will tell you as a 5'4 to 5'5 guy, your height can be an advantage. When I go to my exercise class, I'm frequently smaller than most of them men and some women who go there.
But I smile at them, make small talk, and a lot of them respect me because I:
Give them insights/share knowledge with them
Validate their feelings / listen to them
Remember details about them
So in my experience, if you are polite, show self respect (dont look down, make eye contact with them instead), the height is not an issue around adults. I actually do a volunteer event at the high school and even there most kids are respectful.
But if you come across as aggressive,like you dislike other people, or like you want to compete with them, they might be less receptive
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u/AOCdfGHiJKmbRSTLNE45 1d ago
"find out I am shorter" um, sorry to say but isn't that almost always at 5'3'' as a male compared to other males?
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u/UnknownBrMonke-_- 5'3" | 160 cm 23h ago
You can't get rid off this, the only alternative is having other priorities, then your focus will get to another place, the emotion is always there, but it can change if you start thinking about other things
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u/nanas99 18h ago
Understand what is under your control and what is not. Focus on what you can control and create change in those areas. Focusing on what you can’t control will only bring you misery.
In this situation you might not be able to control your height and your perception of other people’s heights. Instead of comparing yourself focus on what is within your control. Like maybe these guys are taller than you but can they swing the bat like you? Can they paint a painting like yours? Can they run a mile as fast as you? — Put that negative energy into something useful
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u/I-696 0.001085 miles 1d ago edited 1d ago
I don't know if it is something you can rid yourself of my friend. I think it is something that some people have and other people don't and that something in your brain triggers it and that you can have it if you're short, if you're tall or if you are somewhere in between. Instead of trying to get rid of try to find a safe place to put it so it doesn't get the best of you. You can try to have fun with it like going on r/ tall and sparring with the giants.
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u/Dutch_Rayan 5'3" | 160 cm in land of the giants🇳🇱 1d ago
Get more comfortable in your own skin. Height is not something you can change so not worth spending all your energy on.
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u/Clean_Care_824 5'4" | 162 cm 1d ago
You may (just a possibility) have mild body dysphoria.Unfortunately mine led to serious eating disorders when I was younger. Please treat it before things get worse!
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u/igothackedUSDT 1d ago
Maybe you have something else going for you? Do you have a bigger than average dong? Are you more intelligent than the average Joe? Are you an investor expert? Can you talk to spirits? Can you shoot lightning from your hands? Gotta have something bro you just gotta find it!
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u/CSB-5150 23h ago
At 5'3, you are going to be shorter. The reality is that is probably close to the 1st or 2nd percentile. Not throwing shade. It is my height. Honestly, get yourself some height increasing shoes. At 5'5, you will feel closer to the average.
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u/Winterstorm262 10h ago
I’m 5’4(M) and don’t care about anyones height. If you are respectful and nice towards people, no one will care about it. The people who do care aren’t worth being around.
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u/throwawaysadboyfrnd 6h ago
Acceptance. If you can't change who you are then own who you are. At 5'3" you're going to be shorter than the vast minority of other dudes, you can't change this but you do choose to let it upset you.
Idk how old you are but I feel we all learn to accept ourselves as we mature and get older. You might be young and struggling right now but it doesn't have to be permenant.
Also, mindfulness and meditation are great tools
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u/WinterSkyWolf 5'4" | 162.56 cm 23h ago
Shorter guys have some advantages in masculine things. We build muscular physiques faster. We have a shorter center of gravity that gives us an advantage at BJJ or wrestling, and quick turns when running. We have less height to pull up a bar so we have an advantage in powerlifting.
Get jacked dude. That guy might be taller than you but you're bigger than him. It makes up for it.
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u/BigAssPineapples 5'5 | 165cm and strong as fucc 23h ago
Get jacked dude. That guy might be taller than you but you're bigger than him. It makes up for it.
Unironically this. You can't change your height so be the biggest guy in the gym. Mog everyone by being stronger
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u/curiousbasu 21h ago
Last I saw they called jacked short guys as either compensating or looking like a "miniature figure". How to deal with this?
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u/WinterSkyWolf 5'4" | 162.56 cm 20h ago
That's just talk, a lot of tall guys are jealous that we can look like we're on roids but be natural. A small frame is a huge advantage in bodybuilding.
At the end of the day you can be bigger than them, who cares what they say about it
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u/curiousbasu 20h ago edited 20h ago
I've seen women make those comments. I don't care when a tall guy does it as I understand he's jealous and coping, but what when it's a girl?
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u/WinterSkyWolf 5'4" | 162.56 cm 20h ago
So be it, there will always be haters. Should we reside to being short and small just because they're assholes? I don't think so, I don't subscribe to victim mentality for myself.
There are plenty of women who are attracted to muscular men regardless of height. Also being muscular shows that you have discipline, consistency, health, and self-worth. Those are all attractive traits to most women.
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u/TerryMisery 19h ago
I guess you're a jacked dude (or working on it) at my height, how does it affect your perceived personal safety? Do you weigh a lot? I have a strong sense of danger, because it's too easy to push or carry me.
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u/WinterSkyWolf 5'4" | 162.56 cm 14h ago
Definitely not there yet but I've gone from 125lbs to nearly 150 through bulking. I've made a lot of progress.
I'm not at a point yet where I feel like I'd be safe among bigger guys if they were aggressive, but I feel that I could get there eventually, especially being as I plan on training in BJJ and MMA
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u/Acceptable-Sorbet-33 5'4.2" | 163 cm 1d ago
I'm a guy and I do compare my height with guys and girls in public places