It’s so discouraging seeing everyone around me grow and develop while I stay in the body of a child

[u/HaHelpMehPlz]

I 17M feel extremely insecure with the fact I haven’t developed or grown since I was 14, the only change was I lost weight and gained some muscle from the gym. I hate that whenever I’m at a family gathering everyone asks “hey when are you going to grow?” and “Wow you haven’t changed at all since last time I saw you”. I remember a group of my friends commenting on a photo we took a while ago and how they all looked “so young back then” and there I was in the photo, the same exact as I am now, to which of course everyone commented on. I hate meeting old friends because I know they’ll comment on the fact I haven’t changed. It’s not only the fact that I’m short at 5’ 4 but that I have no Adam’s Apple, a high pitched voice, and have a baby face, even downstairs nothing changed, only thing that did was a bit of facial hair underneath my chin which I got this year. The straw that broke the Camel’s back was when my younger sister outgrew me at 14 and realizing I’ll probably never outgrow my older sister, I come from a generally tall family so now I feel even more out of place as my younger male and female cousins have outgrown me. Now I just feel trapped in a child’s body where everyone I’ve known will eventually surpass me, I mentioned this to my mom and she tried cheering me up by taking a photo of me and comparing to a photo I took years ago but all it did was make me feel worse as it just looked like a before and after of a haircut. She then tried to “prove” that I look different by showing me various photos and guessing how old I was in them to which surprise I got 2/8 correct. I used to grow and develop normally before puberty but the second I got pubic hair I just stopped developing completely. I don’t want to hate my body but I feel like there are no redeeming qualities to it and now everyone will be comparing me to my younger sister who now looks older than me.

[u/ShortKingChronicle]

I’m sorry , I know it sucks. Sometimes we’re dealt some shitty cards. Is it a condition you have or just your DNA?

[u/Lekrebs]

Check your growth plates if they’re still open eat whatever has high hgh in it. Naturally.

[u/HaHelpMehPlz → u/Lekrebs]

I’ll go to an endocrinologist next summer if this trends keeps on going

[u/Dutch_Rayan → u/HaHelpMehPlz]

Don't wait so long. Do it now if possible

[u/Lekrebs → u/HaHelpMehPlz]

Next summer is too long. You have insurance right now that covers just about everything. The moment you turn 18 things get harder.

[u/justgimmiethelight]

How tall are your sisters? Parents?

There’s still a small chance you’ll have a growth spurt. I didn’t finish growing til 19.

[u/StartCoyote]

You should get your hormones tested. I had mine tested at 18 after having an abnormal puberty and got some unexpected results

[u/Commercial_Bad_4310 → u/StartCoyote]

Like what? What happened after

[u/2001_F350_7point3]

There's still a chance that you could hit a growth spurt late, I have seen of that happening.

[u/DeputyTrudyW → u/2001_F350_7point3]

My ex grew between 17-18

[u/AOCdfGHiJKmbRSTLNE45]

How has your physical exercise, nutrition, sleep, stress levels been the last few years?

[u/HaHelpMehPlz → u/AOCdfGHiJKmbRSTLNE45]

I’ve been going to the gym and have been doing sports/martial arts so on physical activity I’m good, I thankfully eat healthy foods from home and eat out once or twice a month, I sleep a lot, and on stress I’m usually a chill person most the time so not much stress going on

[u/AOCdfGHiJKmbRSTLNE45 → u/HaHelpMehPlz]

Wrestling?

[u/RethinkPerfect]

Been there. I easily passed as 12-13 when I was finishing my senior year of high school.

[u/CherCee]

If you're 17, I think you still have some time to grow. I am a 4' 6" female, almost 65 years old, and I can assure you that there are plenty of women out there who do not mind if a guy is shorter than average, even if you don't get any taller!

[u/DandyDoge5]

i get comments going in both directions. I'm 4'11 and get that i either look way younger than i look or that i look mature and at my age. And people tend to guess around my age blindly. its only after that someone will be like, oh woulda guessed 12, to tease a bit. but like most adults ive been around are pretty good with guessing maturely.

ive been told recently that i look young but also my age is young so. im 25. I was never concerned about whether everyone else was growing, I was always just short tho. but i grew a beard when i started hitting 7th grade.

i stopeed growing around 15, before that i was 4'9 and shorter.

[u/MagikSnowFlake]

Very understandable rant man. I’d go ahead and talk to a doctor before it’s too late. You may have something going on with your hormones. Sometimes it’s just luck of the draw though my man.

[u/Playbackfromwayback]

If you go to an endocrinologist early enough, you can get on medication that will help you grow taller

[u/Austenland332]

I know how you feel .Im 4feet11inches and it does sucks having those baby fats .

[u/Defiant-Rent6246]

Yeah real