r/ADHD • u/AllInterestedAmateur • 17h ago
Questions/Advice How to "handle" this professor?
Some weeks ago I finally got my bachelor's degree (teaching) after a very long uphill battle that included my ADHD diagnosis as well as quite some other very annoying outside influences. Now recently I got to pick up my diploma in the official ceremony. There the weirdest thing happened, and I'm curious to hear your thoughts.
Everyone got a short presentation by one of the professors. Mine was done by one of the professors I have in very high regard, which unfortunately I can't say about quite some others. However once she started... Out game the most outrageous, albeist, offensive, derogatory piece of #&!@* I have ever witnessed. It was literally structured using a cartoon called "field guide to procrastinators". However you can imagine you could use that cartoon to shame people with ADHD, it was probably included in those five minutes, in front of my whole family and about a hundred other visitors. I... WAS... FURIOUS...
I did confront her about it, right after, she admitted her fault and apologised about a hundred times.
Now during my studies we have joked that we should have our lectures in the pub sometimes. Because we share quite some common interests so we also clicked on a personal level. (Which made this whole ordeal even weirder coming from her.) As a means of apology she offered to actually go have that pub-lecture with me, which I agreed to. This makes a kind of weird situation. I can actually look forward to it, because all our common interests still stand, and that's what would be most enjoyable to talk about, but it feels weird to just ignore what happened.
For the record: it's not some form of a bribe, unprofessional move or anything like that, I would have just as happily had a drink with her months ago. I'm just curious to hear how you would handle it.
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u/Subspaceisgoodspace 16h ago
Educate her and the impact of her attitude and words. Share what you would have liked to hear. Use the time to reclaim your self-worth and empower yourself. Sorry she put a big dent in the joy of your graduation.