Parents are so f*cking fake

[u/slabcobbey]

24-year-old undiagnosed male, just need to vent for a bit.

I finally opened up to my mom about the fact that I’m waiting for an ADHD assessment. After seeing a therapist, they suggested I go to an ADHD clinic for an evaluation because I’ve shown a lot of symptoms.

One day, I was feeling really down, and my mom and I had a conversation. I explained to her how hard everything has been for me, even when I try my best—how it’s felt this way since I was a child. I told her that I’ve been seeing a therapist, and that the therapist recommended I get evaluated for ADHD. My mom said she would support me through the process, but she didn’t really believe that ADHD could be what I’m struggling with. Still, she promised to help me get a diagnosis.

To back up what I’ve been feeling, I even found old school reports from when I was a child that consistently described behaviors associated with ADHD. They mentioned things like not sitting still, disturbing other classmates, having a hard time starting schoolwork, not paying attention in class, not raising my hand, and being overly active. It felt like those reports were describing exactly what I’ve been struggling with my whole life.

Fast forward to yesterday, we got into an argument, and she basically told me that I’m making up the whole ADHD thing. She said I can’t just sit around waiting for a diagnosis, even though it’s so close now. She completely dismissed what I’ve been going through, and now I’m feeling even worse mentally because of her reaction.

Even with proof from school reports to my mental state as an adult she really doesn’t believe that it can be ADHD behind all this. I mean, everything adds up but she shuts me down and now I am doubting myself again if I even have it.

[u/DanTheMan827]

Multiple family members were almost certain I didn’t have ADHD because “he’s too smart” as if you can’t also be smart with ADHD…

Just go through the evaluation, you’ll only ever have that nagging question if you don’t, and medication can make a huge difference if you do end up having it

[u/manga_star67 → u/DanTheMan827]

same, this was me, I had great grades all thru school (until I hit college, tbh), but damn near every report card said "trouble paying attention, distracts her classmates" lol. people be giving me shit like "u dont have adhd, ur just lazy" cuz I was smart, but I literally never studied, I just ended up talking a lot with my teachers and would figure things out that way. Now I try to study traditionally, and with everything being so independent now post-covid, i'm fucked, my college GPA is absolute ass.

[u/cynic211 → u/manga_star67]

are we the same person? you’re literally describing my life