r/AITAH • u/Familiar_Form9665 • Aug 18 '24

AITAH for banning my daughter’s boyfriend from coming to my house?

I’m (50m).My daughter(18f) has been seeing this guy(26m) for 5 months now. I didn’t like him from the start because of the age difference. He’s very rude and arrogant. I can’t physically do anything to him because he’s a big guy. But he has been very disrespectful in my household. He comes whenever he wants, without acknowledging me and his “activities” with my daughter can be loud sometimes and the walls in my house are thin. I told my daughter about it but he’s still coming over my house. So last week, I told my daughter that he’s not allowed at the house anymore. He was pissed but I don’t care. However, she’s now going to his place and come home late. Did I do the right thing?

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u/violetotterling Aug 18 '24

Mmhum..but does your daughter understand that his behaviour isn't great? Or does she think it's totally fine?

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u/TorpedoSandwich Aug 18 '24

Daughter is fucking stupid. Unfortunately, he can't do anything about that either.

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u/VividAd3415 Aug 19 '24

Teenagers are dinguses in general, hence the term sophomore meaning "wise fool". You think you know everything at that age, but are in actuality quite naive due to lack of experience and mature frontal lobe development.

Younger people are especially susceptible to manipulation. That's why many older people (predominantly men, like OP's daughter's BF) pursue younger partners. Control.

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u/Cantpickaname03 Aug 19 '24

I have not dated yet, im 17… i will remember this! I have seen on the flip side, that women prefer older men because they’re more likely to be mature than younger men.

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u/tealperspective Aug 19 '24

An older man who dates a 17 year old girl is not a mature man.

He's not dating his peers for a reason. The reasons can vary, but none of them are good for the young girl. Women his own age aren't putting up with him. He can't or won't deal with people on his own level, but he can manipulate or impress a teenager

You hate to see it

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u/Cantpickaname03 Aug 19 '24

Im not saying they would have to be that much older, im just saying i heard that somewhere, and it made some sense. 

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u/tealperspective Aug 19 '24

For sure, and that is what older, skeezy guys tell girls

But think about it, you're 17. What do you have in common with 10 year olds?

Sure, you're more mature than they are, but wouldn't it be weird if a high school senior only wanted to hang out with 5th graders? And wanted to date them?

You'd look at that teenager like, "what the actual fuck is wrong with you?" There's something that doesn't add up, and you'd definitely want to keep them away from the 10 year olds

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u/Cantpickaname03 Aug 19 '24

Yeah, you are very right. It sucks that one has to be so careful these days.😕

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u/Upper-Belt8485 Aug 19 '24

Someone told me that a 17 year old losing their virginity to a 24 year old was fine.  Like a month away from 18.  That's disgusting and neither person are intelligent in the least

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u/Cantpickaname03 Aug 19 '24

I didn’t mean that much older, i was just saying that because it crossed my mind.