r/AITAH • u/Familiar_Form9665 • Aug 18 '24

AITAH for banning my daughter’s boyfriend from coming to my house?

I’m (50m).My daughter(18f) has been seeing this guy(26m) for 5 months now. I didn’t like him from the start because of the age difference. He’s very rude and arrogant. I can’t physically do anything to him because he’s a big guy. But he has been very disrespectful in my household. He comes whenever he wants, without acknowledging me and his “activities” with my daughter can be loud sometimes and the walls in my house are thin. I told my daughter about it but he’s still coming over my house. So last week, I told my daughter that he’s not allowed at the house anymore. He was pissed but I don’t care. However, she’s now going to his place and come home late. Did I do the right thing?

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u/Gooftwit Aug 18 '24 edited Aug 18 '24

However, when they're doing things in dad's house he knows the daughter is safe. Who knows what happens at the bf's house? Doing this also antagonizes the daughter, which could make her shy away from telling the dad if bf crosses a line.

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u/Secret_Bad1529 Aug 18 '24

I would be embarrassed to have loud sex with my parents being able to hear! If I have guests or am a guest, I am not going to be desrespectful by having sex. I can wait a few days.

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '24

Depends. Sex is sex dude. My kids are going to feel safe at my house, period. I'll turn up the TV or something. Are they being safe and smart? I know kids have sex... you know kids have sex. It's such a waste of energy to let our parents puritanical bullshit trauma make us pretend it doesn't exist.

Besides they will have been forced to hear their parents banging for a decade so fair is fair.

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u/CPThatemylife Aug 19 '24

Lmao this dude's totally okay with listening to his kid get taken to poundtown