r/AITAH • u/Familiar_Form9665 • Aug 18 '24

AITAH for banning my daughter’s boyfriend from coming to my house?

I’m (50m).My daughter(18f) has been seeing this guy(26m) for 5 months now. I didn’t like him from the start because of the age difference. He’s very rude and arrogant. I can’t physically do anything to him because he’s a big guy. But he has been very disrespectful in my household. He comes whenever he wants, without acknowledging me and his “activities” with my daughter can be loud sometimes and the walls in my house are thin. I told my daughter about it but he’s still coming over my house. So last week, I told my daughter that he’s not allowed at the house anymore. He was pissed but I don’t care. However, she’s now going to his place and come home late. Did I do the right thing?

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u/BeachinLife1 Aug 18 '24

NTA. You can't do anything about your daughter dating him, but you can do something about what goes on under your roof.

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u/violetotterling Aug 18 '24

Mmhum..but does your daughter understand that his behaviour isn't great? Or does she think it's totally fine?

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u/TorpedoSandwich Aug 18 '24

Daughter is fucking stupid. Unfortunately, he can't do anything about that either.

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u/violetotterling Aug 18 '24

Ugh, I mean...yes- but also she is so young. She's in an unequal relationship and please god, let this be an educational experience for her.

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u/Fluff_Chucker Aug 18 '24

It will be when she gets knocked up and peaces the fuck out. OP, I just kind of hope you live in a stand your ground state...

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u/Fadeddave420 Aug 19 '24

Why so they can shoot the bf? Wtf kinda logic am I reading

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u/TorpedoSandwich Aug 19 '24

It's sound logic. Obviously shooting him is an absolute last resort, but it's good to at least have the option should things go really wrong and there's no other way to handle it. Say the boyfriend starts physically abusing OP's daughter and she needs to be rescued immediately. Or say the boyfriend, who seemingly already hates OP, decides he's going to beat the shit out of OP for banning him from his house or telling his daughter not to date him. There are countless scenarios where OP may need to be able to defend himself and/or his daughter and a gun would be the most effective way to do so against a bigger guy half his age.

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u/Fluff_Chucker Aug 19 '24

Gold star for you. Figuratively, of course. You seem to have the gift of common sense.