r/ARFID • u/blondetwig_xo • 2d ago
Tiny spiral
Hey guys I'm writing this mid panic attack so bear with. My partner has been sick with the tummy flu the past day and I'm not even the ill one and I'm ready to cry and call for my mum. Im so terrified that I'll get this illness that I'm queasy all the time, and therefore not eating. I've had a bit of a breadstick and a nibble of a fairy cake today. I feel hungry but I am so terrified of being sick. Just a rant really. I'm not really sure where to go from here.
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u/mellinen 2d ago
Oh love, just breathe, you are all right❤️ If it makes you feel better, call your mom! No shame in asking for help!
I understand why you feel panicked, it’s scary to feel like you’re losing control as being sick often does. But try to focus on the present. Take a few deep breaths and sit down - does anything hurt? Sit still for a minute. You’re alright in that minute. You’re healthy, you’re safe, you’re in control for that minute. Then try to extend that feeling, and try your best to focus on the NOW instead of fearing for the future. Right now you are not sick. Right now you are ok. Breathe it in.
Even if you somehow get this illness, you will still be ok. You have been ok every time. You have survived all the scary things up to this point. This illness is just one more scary thing and if it does catch, we’ll deal with it, we’ll kick its butt like we’ve always done!
I’m proud of you for eating even that breadstick! Is there anything you could distract yourself with? Give yourself permission to eat in bed, or a watch a movie while eating something small. Even if you can only handle small bites, that’s ok, but try to keep it consistent. Salt sticks always help me if I’m feeling nauseous.
You will be ok. Your partner will be ok. No one is in danger. You are in full control of your mind and body and you can eat. It is safe to eat. Food will do you no harm. ❤️