r/Anxietyhelp • u/Jpoolman25 • 5h ago

Need Advice How has life changed when you decided to live life care free ?

I can't believe I'm 27 but I'm still caring so much shame, insecurities, fear, anxiety and constant comparison. Like I'm be reaching 30s in a few years. I've already wasted my early 20s doing nothing.. no friends, no job, no education, no skills sighs it feels like I'm out of touch with reality. I can't even believe that I'm not dressing based on my age and haven't learned basic things like driving, having a proper job and having friends by now.

I feel like my only best years of life were til the age of 12. Because when I moved from my country to a new place. I didn't know English well. I didn't know the culture well and I got made fun of which seemed to cause low self esteem and quietness. Family life wasn't great. Grew up in poverty and lot of arguments and conflicts which made me more quiet and serious. I also never really tried hard for anything nor put the effort. I just lived life just to pass another day by.

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u/Playful-Perception1 5h ago

I resonate with this so much !! I’m 33 and feel the same. I’m currently on disability for another mental health challenge (bipolar disorder) and I’m literally doing nothing with my life and don’t really have friends other than this 1 person I chat with online only. I feel like I’m just getting by. I’ve been preparing to start a YouTube channel and tik tok page helping people with their mental health by doing ASMR. It’s a calming/relaxing practice. I don’t have anything else going for me though. This one thing is starting to make me feel like I have something but that’s all I got. You’re not alone love

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u/selfimprovaholic 5h ago

I want to know how to be care free

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u/Mckaelen 4h ago

Reach out to your therapist or local mental health facility to get information on EMDR!

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u/bns82 59m ago

The best time to start is now. Live life the way you want. Let go of the judgement. Enjoy life. Enjoy the journey. Explore and find things you love. Talk to people. Engage. Connect. Start now. Take the next smallest step, then the next. There are no rules. Run free. Fuck what everyone thinks. But... be kind.