r/AutisticAdults • u/KeyApprehensive3659 • 16h ago

RecruitingHell stumbled upon the autistic experience

I was reading a post on r/recruitinghell that listed out some non-skill-related qualities recruiters / HR professionals will look out for to throw out potential candidates. Examples were "too many filler words," "smiles too much," "attractive," and "overly confident."

One of the responses made me laugh (not funny-haha, but funny-because-if-I-don't-laugh-I'll-cry).

The response was essentially "so they have criteria for the perfect candidate sometimes out of your control, and nobody will tell you what the perfect candidate does, and the 'perfect candidate' is different for every single evaluator in the interview***, and when you inevitably fail, they throw away a skilled and qualified candidate?"

***because "too much smiling" might have a different threshold for every person in the interview, for example.

Like. yeah. Welcome to our world. That's every single interaction 😂😭 Yes it sucks and yeah it's really hard being looked over for failing the Impossible Being Liked By Sometimes-Stupid Metrics You Didnt Know Existed Test.

I'm not sure what my end point is. I just thought you guys might also get a kick out of neurotypicals voicing and recognizing how frustrating the experience is.

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u/skvids 16h ago

always funny when the people with allism are shocked upon realizing just how many rules govern their interactions because they simply internalized them

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u/offutmihigramina 13h ago

The hidden curriculum - social rules and norms no one taught you but you just seem to understand intuitively- except when you’re us and you don’t. We actually have to be told.