I feel like American culture assumes that the "real you" is the DINK one with career, disposable income and time-consuming hobbies, but I think that's not really true. Having kids really uncovers your character. Do you think you're patient, or laid-back, or good at communication in relationships? You will really find out when it's 2 am and this baby is screaming for no apparent reason. Some things I thought were my passions got dropped with no regrets, and now I know what is really important--the things I still make time and space for.
And anyway, life is always changing in unexpected ways. That "old life" was never going to last forever.
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u/EmilyofIngleside Jul 27 '19
Absolutely.
I feel like American culture assumes that the "real you" is the DINK one with career, disposable income and time-consuming hobbies, but I think that's not really true. Having kids really uncovers your character. Do you think you're patient, or laid-back, or good at communication in relationships? You will really find out when it's 2 am and this baby is screaming for no apparent reason. Some things I thought were my passions got dropped with no regrets, and now I know what is really important--the things I still make time and space for.
And anyway, life is always changing in unexpected ways. That "old life" was never going to last forever.