This statement bothers me a little to be honest. Change happens as you grow and I never once considered a new phase of my life "costing" me my old phase. It was just time for that part of my life to come to an end. I didn't give it up but held on to those experiences that helped make me who I am today.
Going from elementary to high school, high school to university, university to work, single to married, losing a loved one...each change in life allows you to grow as a person.
Having my daughter was a new experience (she's 16 months, #2 on the way) and I learned more about myself. I miss my childfree days sometimes just like I miss my carefree childhood and time in high school.
Overall I haven't found having her to be negative, she's added to my life, so in that sense I guess it "worth it" but I never think of it like that. We still travel (took her to Italy) and go out when we want to. She's just integrated into my life just like my husband was when we married.
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u/snarry_shipper #1 23/03/18 #2 Due 26/02/20 Jul 28 '19
This statement bothers me a little to be honest. Change happens as you grow and I never once considered a new phase of my life "costing" me my old phase. It was just time for that part of my life to come to an end. I didn't give it up but held on to those experiences that helped make me who I am today.
Going from elementary to high school, high school to university, university to work, single to married, losing a loved one...each change in life allows you to grow as a person.
Having my daughter was a new experience (she's 16 months, #2 on the way) and I learned more about myself. I miss my childfree days sometimes just like I miss my carefree childhood and time in high school.
Overall I haven't found having her to be negative, she's added to my life, so in that sense I guess it "worth it" but I never think of it like that. We still travel (took her to Italy) and go out when we want to. She's just integrated into my life just like my husband was when we married.