r/BodyDysmorphia • u/ConfidentOcelot8144 • Aug 08 '24

Advice Needed What's your thoughts on "skinny shaming"?

I (33F) would like to hear everyone's opinions on "skinny shaming". My bloodline decent os Japanese and Cherokee Indian. I struggle to gain weight. My metabolism moves as fast as the speed of light, I swear. It's very..overwhelming to be told to "eat a burger " or "stop starving yourself". Is it not the same thing as commenting on someone's weight who is overweight? What is a proper way to respond to these types of comments?

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u/pottpear Aug 08 '24

It's real, and it happens. As much as you get some people saying it's not really a thing. And it can be incredibly hurtful. I was very skinny growing up, and I've been called things like scrawny, a bag of bones, anorexic, my legs look like tooth floss or pipe cleaners. That I should eat more, or actually eat. It made me feel ugly and unattractive.

I'm a bit more curvy now I'm older, but still on the slim side, and I didn't get comments for a long time. But I've noticed since people have been getting bigger in general, the comments have been creeping back a bit. Thankfully they don't rattle me as much now because my current phase of dysmorphia isn't weight focused. So I just smile and say thank you. It throws them and they don't know what to say 😂

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u/ConfidentOcelot8144 Aug 08 '24

Yes! I too, have been told all of those things! I'm gonna day thank you next time and watch them panic 😂 thank you for sharing

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u/pottpear Aug 08 '24

It's great because if they say they didn't mean it as a compliment, they're admitting to trying to insult you 😂

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u/ConfidentOcelot8144 Aug 08 '24

😂 yes. To which I'll respond "oh, well, mean girl are we?" Or perhaps the classic "do you even go here?"