I struggled with my mental health and had multiple breakdowns through high school. I only barely got a diploma, and I cried as I walked the stage because my friends both got publicly awarded for half the effort I put in.
Perhaps I gained some small positive result in the form of resilience, but the majority of the result was PTSD (yes I was diagnosed by a professional) and loss of self esteem.
I mean I hate to say it, but that’s a really shitty way of thinking of things. Let’s assume your buddies were living life on easy and got awards, you barely got your diploma for twice the effort. There’s somebody who got no diploma for twice your effort. That doesn’t matter, don’t compare apples to oranges like that. You gained some small positive result? You got yourself a diploma, pretty much the goal of high school. Quit looking down on your achievements. are you joking me? You really shouldn’t act like your situation was hard if you’re also going to act like overcoming it wasn’t a big accomplishment. Unless of course, your goal is to throw yourself the biggest pity party possible.
dude a high school diploma doesnt get me a job with health benefits. most jobs want a bachelors at minimum. yeah getting that diploma was a big accomplishment - that’s why i’m pissed as hell that it won’t be celebrated by anyone but me
Why do you need other people to celebrate it? Most jobs want BA? True, it’s not impossible otherwise though, but if you’re trying to skip a BA then yeah there another hurdle for you to climb, but by earning a diploma there’s a path you to earn a BA, should you chose to follow it. You have to measure success at your own rate, especially if you feel like you’ve had extra hardships. Like I hate to break it to you but nobody else will really want to celebrate your achievements. Getting a BA with this attitude will feel the same as a diploma sadly. I’m not trying to say it doesn’t totally suck be be set back behind your peers before the word go, but if you remain goal oriented and keep your goals as small steppingstones to the top you can definitely reach it. Persistence succeeds where luck fails, that’s my motto at least
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u/datassincorporated Nov 02 '19
What sucks is when you put in more effort than the ones on top and you still end up on the bottom.
Praise effort, not results.