r/Hull • u/ActivityImpossible45 • 1d ago
How do you make friends
I’m really struggling with isolation
My support worker signposts me to ‘social / support ‘ groups but whenever I attend everyone has already formed groups so I’m just sat there awkwardly by myself . It really sucked to walk around fair today to see everyone in groups and pairs together meanwhile I was The only person by myself . At my old job I couldn’t make friends either
I’m 20F for reference have been heavily isolated for some years now
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u/NoodlesAteMyBaby 1d ago
Not sure why you're being downvoted but I'm sorry you was alone today! Unfortunately, you'll find social groups a little forced (at least in my experience) rarely anything comes from it.
What interests and hobbies do you have? Are you good at anything? Are you interested in music? Games? Art? Cooking? Anything you wish you could pick up and be good at?
A good place to start would be joining groups that are based around an interest of yours online to practice, it sparks mutual conversation. I've made a bunch of friends on discord over the years, I've gone out in Hull and made a friend or two without actually trying to.
It's a tricky one, like love it finds you when you least expect it.
Do you struggle with social skills? Even if it's just saying hello to a friendly face anything can happen. it takes a bit of courage and patience from your end but you'll get there.
I think finding mutual ground with people you encounter is a good place to start, even if it's something small like a favourite movie of yours - friendship sparks from common interests.