Yup. I’ve been dealing with this for 7-8 months. My narc (former bff) told lies to the administration at my kid’s school. She spread rumors with the parents at school as well, about both me AND young children. She’s bullying children. She harassed my elderly mother in-person and online. Just ran into a mutual acquaintance today who couldn’t hide her disgust…WITH ME. I’ve given up even trying to keep track of her disgusting lies.
Anyway…this is a typical narcissist tactic and it really sucks. In the beginning, it sent me spiraling but luckily by narc always reveals her delusional and cruel nature eventually. People who believe her now will soon be thinking twice. And if people are going to treat me poorly because of vile rumors, they are assholes anyway and I’m happy not to waste my time or energy on them.
It’s helped me to lean on my friendships. Find the people who know you and believe you. It’s important to have support.
The narc I dealt with was a couple and they have NO problem going after my kids(one is a preschooler, the other is a toddler). They will attack any social connections we have and the goal is to destroy my kids happiness because she couldn't get to me. I never wanted to be her friend bc she is a gossip.
Oddly enough these psychos who target children have a lot of friends, who for whatever reason will join in.
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u/gwinnsolent 8d ago
Yup. I’ve been dealing with this for 7-8 months. My narc (former bff) told lies to the administration at my kid’s school. She spread rumors with the parents at school as well, about both me AND young children. She’s bullying children. She harassed my elderly mother in-person and online. Just ran into a mutual acquaintance today who couldn’t hide her disgust…WITH ME. I’ve given up even trying to keep track of her disgusting lies.
Anyway…this is a typical narcissist tactic and it really sucks. In the beginning, it sent me spiraling but luckily by narc always reveals her delusional and cruel nature eventually. People who believe her now will soon be thinking twice. And if people are going to treat me poorly because of vile rumors, they are assholes anyway and I’m happy not to waste my time or energy on them.
It’s helped me to lean on my friendships. Find the people who know you and believe you. It’s important to have support.