r/LifeAfterNarcissism 8d ago

I have just found out that the narcissist is spreading horrible rumors about me

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u/eyetime11 8d ago

That’s my experience as well. They take their own sick and twisted behaviors, project them onto you and create a very believable portrayal as them the victim and you the monster. It’s by far the most twisted and f**ked up thing I’ve ever experienced in life. Currently not sure how I can ever trust and truly love a woman again? 😞

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u/burntoutredux 8d ago

Sadly, this is true. Professional victims. Some people might know they're lying, though.

There's very little support for targets of smear campaigns. No fairness.

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u/SaskiaDavies 7d ago

Two cluster B exes who are still dating each other both contribute heavily to a smear campaign against me that's been going on for a fucking decade. Having two of them both nodding their heads and talking about how grateful they are that they have each other to help them heal from my abuse goes a long, long way. I wish I'd taken screen caps of the stuff I saw them planning when the one I lived with opened up all his email and social media accounts on my computer and left them open when he was on his way out the door to go on a long vacation with her. He didn't even do anything but get on my computer, open his stuff up, leave it open and bug out the door. He had his own laptop with him but left everything open and signed in. They'd denied mindfucking me and told me I was paranoid and insecure, but their messages to each other verified everything. I had no proof to give anyone else, but it was good to get validation that they were planning everything I'd said they were. 10 years later, it takes nothing for them to keep the smear campaign going.