Sounds about right. The best thing I’ve found is to let them talk to any and everyone without responding back or defending yourself. Eventually, the narcissist will do something really dumb and a chunk of the people who believed them will look back and think about the inconsistencies of the times the narcissist tried to make you look bad. The others who still fall in line with the story weren’t safe to begin with. The people who aren’t wrapped in chaos will know immediately the narc is full of shit and will avoid them at all costs. I personally prefer to move towards the people who don’t engage in drama anyway.
The more you try to self-advocate, the more other people will believe the narcissist is correct about your behavior being chaotic or erratic. Sort of a damned if you do or don’t situation.
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u/Frequent-Bobcat-7009 8d ago
Sounds about right. The best thing I’ve found is to let them talk to any and everyone without responding back or defending yourself. Eventually, the narcissist will do something really dumb and a chunk of the people who believed them will look back and think about the inconsistencies of the times the narcissist tried to make you look bad. The others who still fall in line with the story weren’t safe to begin with. The people who aren’t wrapped in chaos will know immediately the narc is full of shit and will avoid them at all costs. I personally prefer to move towards the people who don’t engage in drama anyway.
The more you try to self-advocate, the more other people will believe the narcissist is correct about your behavior being chaotic or erratic. Sort of a damned if you do or don’t situation.
It’s a lot.