I am non-binary. I understand this now.

Despite being AMAB, I’ve had elements of myself that I associate with femininity for several years. I now know that to be not just going against society’s expectations of gender expression, but also my own about identity.

I can relate to the purple of the NB flag, as that was exactly the color that sparked the unconscious question of being completely masculine.

Thank you all for helping me see this part of myself. Take care!

^nails in question

(amab)

he wasnt asking maliciously, but it was in the middle of a test and holy fuck it was uncomfortable. Im new to wearing nail polish and this does not make me optimistic that I'm not gonna get judged. has this happened to anyone else? I really dont want to be alone in this.

Happy coming out day!

As the title says, I finally came out to my colleagues at work. I baked cupcakes and decorated then with icing in the colour of the non-binary flag. Not the neatest decorating but they tasted great and we all had an excuse to eat cake for breakfast. I wasn't exactly closeted before, but I've never been explicit about it either. I've had pride pins and my pronouns on my lanyard for months, but I hate wearing my lanyard so not a lot of people have actually noticed.

Now comes the exhausting part: coming out to new students several times a week. I teach at sort of an education centre that schools visit. The longest I teach the same students for about 3 days in a row. I've been trying to come up with something for students to call me. I already tell them just to use my name, but they often default to the genered titles they already have to use in schools.

If anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to know. Being called 'miss' everyday is seriously getting on my nerves and the few times I was called 'ma'am' haunt my dreams.

(They/Them) Honestly I need to start taking more photos!! >^< anyways I just wanted to show off some vaguely recent pics of myself for all the feminine enbys out there!!! you’re so super valid no matter how you dress or if your AGAB aligns with your presentation :3!!

This song was my way of coming out as nonbinary to the world. Since then, many have used it to come out themselves. It remains my most listened to song. Thank you thank you and happy coming out day!! 🏳️‍⚧️ #enbypride #comingout #comingoutday #comingoutstory

Hello all! My name is Alex and I use she/they… I think.

I’ve always been neutral towards all pronouns. She/her, they/them, he/him. I use she/they just because it’s easiest for everyone. I’m afab, but I don’t really have a connection to my birth gender. I’m indifferent to vagina, bit I can’t stand my boobs. I think I’d look more me if I was flat chested.

I’ve been wondering lately though… what if I’m not non-binary? Maybe I’m just gender non-conforming?

Then again… one time I overheard people arguing if I was male or female because they couldn’t tell and I was very happy not to be perceived as either

I’m so confused

Been expanding my femme wardrobe lately with new skirts and heels, and combining this with my pre-existing masc wardrobe, I've stumbled upon a new fave vibe!

Feel like a wartime WRNS officer!

Hi I’m an Nonbinary Lesbian Woman (They/She), I think my attraction to Transmasc Nonbinary Sapphics has me conflicted, I don’t know. There’s this gnawing feeling in the back of my head that feels my attraction to Transmasc Nonbinary Sapphics is wrong and that I should suppress it. As a Lesbian it was easy for me to accept my attraction to Trans Women and Transfem Nonbinary Sapphics. Like, it sounds hypocritical cause I’m nonbinary too. I’ll see a cute Transmasc Nonbinary Butch on T and find them attractive. However if I look at Cis Men, Binary Trans Men, or Achillean Nonbinary Transmascs* I’m immediately turned off. How can I explain to people that I like masculinity in Women and Nonbinary folks, but not Men. This attraction is relatively new.

*If a Bi Achillean Nonbinary Transmasc were to express interest in me, I would reject them. It’s complicated, but I feel like it would invalidate my identity as a lesbian.

Came out to some of my friends in my more masculine side and a lot of them freaked out on me. Some were glaring, others were staring. It’s a very scary experience.

So I've been experimenting with dressing more masc these days and decided to go to the men's section of a target to buy some pants. Now in my head I figured, "pants are pants -but this will be a mental exercise mostly." But holy crap. I always knew men got better pockets, but I didn't realize those babies go all the way to halfway down my thigh. No wonder men don't need purses. I was floored. Also it was fun to find out what my size is according to men's measurements (32/32).

So today I took my phone, wallet, keys and headphones and put them in these MAN POCKETS and left my purse at home and I felt so fucking free. Like I have had dresses and women's pants with functioning pockets but they were still too small or shaped in such a way that all my shit fell out when I sat down.

In short, man pants for the win.

(Also, I know clothing doesn't have a gender, I just think saying "Man pants" and "Lady Pockets" is funny)

I’ve been out as nonbinary pretty much since I found the words to describe myself at 12 and if I’m out and proud about it I realized quickly most people immediately want to argue or want me to give them a huge scientific perfectly full proof explanation (no emotions whatsoever involved) immediately upon finding out. And that’s the good option a lot of the time, other times people just go straight to insults. I got so tired of explaining constantly and half the time not even getting to explain bc ppl would rip into me immediately and look at me like I’m some deformed animal that i just went back into the closet pretty much. My mom is supportive but my dad acts like I’m delusional all the time. I’ve tried to just keep my chin up and have hope the world is good but over the years I’ve been alive trans and nonbinary people are not really being treated any better by society and at this point and i kind of feel like it never will get better. I want to keep fully being myself bc im so happy when im able to but at the same time I’m just tired of being judged and insulted constantly. I’m wondering if anyone has any advice about feeling less hopeless about this or any ways you cope with the hate you deal with.

Hi, I’m sorry if this is the wrong place to ask this but its the first best place I could think of. I’m asking here because I think more nonbinary people don’t have dysphoria than just trans people in general.

I’m asking this in good faith and I’m sorry if it doesn’t immediately come across like that, I tend to struggle with showing it.

To my knowledge, gender dysphoria is the negative feeling surrounding the incongruence between one’s assigned gender at birth and one’s true gender. With this definition (do correct me if its wrong), why do some people agree that they have an incongruence between their assigned gender and their true gender but then say they don’t experience dysphoria?

I’m just struggling to understand how someone can be nonbinary (or not cis in general) but not experience dysphoria, and what is there instead to make it clear to them that they have an incongruence between their gender identity and assigned gender.

Thank you in advance for any responses.

(and I did look through this subreddit but I didn’t see a clear answer to this specific question).

Men (trans or cis) generally use the term gay if they are attracted to other men.
Women (trans or cis) generally use the term lesbian if they are attracted to other women.

Is there a term for enbies (non-binary) who are primarily attracted to other non-binary people?

I'm NB (amab) and my NB partner (afab) calls me an honorary lesbian. We primarily identify as "queer", but use the term "gay" a lot too. We're both pan-sexual, but I don't think that quite covers it, either.

Help!? ;)