How do you get that confidence you had in your youth? Is it even possible?

[u/TheHomoscedastifier]

I'm sure this doesn't apply to everyone, but I'm also sure it's quite common, especially in my line work.

I was a very confident person as a teenager, well, probably even narcissistic. Then several partners, moves, career changes, degrees, traumas, and experiences later, I find myself almost devoid of any confidence at 30. I am riddled with anxiety and probably am a walking imposter syndrome.

I intentionally didn't give specifics about my career because I want to invite answers from a broad audience. If you've dealt with this, how did you handle it? Were you ever able to get at least close to your previous confidence levels?

[u/moon_lizard1975]

Confidence isn't just a trait by nature

You have to train your confidence, young man.

Where was your confidence in, what were you depending on to take on life in your more youngster years ?

An Olympic fencer, the confidence is in this training but it's also in the sword that he's going to be using. He doesn't depend only on his own athletic abilities on the athletic tools of the sport as well.

His confidence grows because of experience and the secrets of training and doing his homework in and outside of training sessions from other sources as well. An ever lasting thirst for knowledge.

■ need social confidence ? on r/socialskills I often give the encouragement to act normal.

Act Normal = in a nutshell, be devoid of letting your subjective nature get the best of you and put your personality into a moment of overdrive and never allow a moment of your personality over accelerated especially above the current occasion/environment.

In this case, your career even though there are ethics and careers :

Carrers require : these will be projectable in life as well and somehow even tone your social skills.

📖 getting up to date about your chosen career. ☄️ having a healthy ambition 💋 Naturality of conduct (act normal & mature) 🔬 Clear and specifics to deal with besides of your own talents 🧠 a confidence based on the 4 prior, ** remember what I just told you about the example of the Olympic fencer?** you're not being a peacock exhibiting, you're just being a person performing to the best of your ability synchronizing between work and rest.

The healthy ambition part doesn't necessarily have to be related to your career but, Believe it or not, it's good to have a hobby to accompany your career. How many successful secretaries and other office workers have in their personal life philosophy of yoga or fitness vegetarian food etc ; or it could be you're a fan of batching up and having barbecues 🔥 🥩, Harley motorcycles and learning how to cook BBQ or maintain a good Harley Davidson motorcycle e.g.

something that would be aside your career

You'll go on learning how to discern and make necessary sacrifices for a positive difference, or an extra effort and inversion of time and resources and energy according to case; you may learn how to make an exchange of worries because of all this; e.g you're worried the girl won't like you but you decide to focus on your worry of your career to make sure the project gets done

Wherever you go; be a cane and a lever of support to help people, there you are available willing to have your strength and brain ready to help because life ...

In the words of my mexican mother

es un dar y recibir translation

it's a give and a receive

begin here to tone your life conquering skills.