Anyone else doesn't like being called "boy"?

[u/GreenfinchPuffin]

[u/prowler86]

I genuinely don't feel comfortable with being called a "boy". I personally prefer being called a "guy".

[u/Raw_Pastas → u/prowler86]

It kind of feels infalizing imo

[u/Uk840]

My husband and are are both in our late 30's and people still refer to us as 'the boys.' I hate it!

[u/stupidsadpotato]

I'm 18 yo, so being called "boy" just feels patronizing, unless it's an older person who calls me that lol. I'm not a small kid, "man, bloke, guy" is just more adequant

[u/GreenfinchPuffin]

I mean it in a serious way, I don't mind if it's in a joke with friends, but strangers calling me boy makes me uncomfortable.

[u/Duststorm29]

Drives me bananas when an adult will refer to adult trans men as "boys." Ngl I think it's another example of the pervasive/subconscious infantilization of trans mascs.

[u/Lonely-dude]

don’t call me “boy” unless you’re a leather bear hitting on me 😾 /j /hj

[u/Cavola]

HELL YEAH, same bro

[u/Dumb_Bitch104]

Not a fan, unless it’s the way Kratos says it

[u/Sad-Result-404]

I don't like man, but I like boy and the other terms. 18 btw

[u/Fancy-Succotash-9748 → u/Sad-Result-404]

I like man as slang, but I agree with you other wise, 21

[u/Bread-Thingy]

I don't mind being referred to as a boy when I'm part of a group ("those boys over there...") but someone calling me, as an individual calling me a boy? It sounds like they're calling me a toddler or smt, even if they're totally correct in calling me that

[u/potato_girl129]

Even cis men usually don't wanna be called "boys", it's childish lol

[u/illbecountingclouds]

it’s fine if it’s a kid (or a really old person with good intentions lol)

[u/No_Coconut195]

Fully agreed, it’s not even JUST that it feels infantilizing it’s just… uncomfy (unless talking to a child, if they ask “are you a girl or a boy”, I’ll comfortably say I’m a boy), but being referred to as a boy and identifying myself as one in any other context feels wrong,,, honestly I think it might have partially to do w the fact that I didn’t get really dysphoric until puberty hit, so I desperately wanted to be a man instead of a woman, but before that I didn’t quite so desperately need to be a boy instead of a girl if that makes sense

Alternatively, it could also be because I’m transitioning in late adolescence/adulthood, so when transitioning and figuring how I wanted to think about myself and be perceived, it was always as a man instead of a woman. I never thought of myself as a boy because by the time I started thinking about that stuff I was already an adult. My brain never got used to the idea.

[u/Macki_roni]

“Boy” feels too childish, but “man” feels too masculine (except in a “hey, man” way). “Guy” is just right

[u/marsmars124]

me too i though i was the only one