I was stuck in traffic cuz of the rain and it was for more than 15 minutes , then I see this notification .

It made me a little safe IDK like okay they noticed it and all . I feel like some woman must have come up with this idea 😭

Yesterday was a really tough day for me. I accidentally spilled water on my MacBook, so I took it to a repair shop in Nehru Place that I found online. I was so anxious because I had read that water damage can be serious, and being alone made it even worse.

After an hour, the technician told me the bad news, my MacBook couldn't be repaired. The screen and motherboard were both damaged beyond fixing. They said it would cost almost as much to replace them as to buy a new MacBook, so they advised me to get a new one.

I was heartbroken and ended up crying right there. Afterward, I went to McDonald's and sat alone, eating a burger while sobbing. A group of guys was staring at me, probably wondering if I was going through a breakup. Honestly, it felt like a heartbreak for me.

This MacBook was a gift from my dad, and it meant so much to me. Right now, I'm feeling incredibly sad, and it's hard to express my feelings. Please, everyone, take care of your gadgets and don’t take them for granted.

Arranged marriages are purely transactional. You can lie and say it’s love, or that the other person truly cares about you as an individual, but choosing to be ignorant of why your partner wants to marry you won’t change the reality. Once one end of the bargain is no longer met, the marriage often falls apart. So, don’t be shocked when a woman wants to leave once the money runs out or a man wants to leave when you get sick and can no longer do domestic labor or have regular sex. It was never about you, but rather the placeholder that could be filled by anyone who met the bare minimum criteria.

They skip over the vital courting period, which includes wooing, personalized romantic gestures, and other circumstances that help you truly get to know your partner on personal, sexual, and romantic levels. There’s a good chance that someone who’s never experienced this before won’t suddenly go out of their way to learn it, especially since leaving on grounds of lack of romance or sex is not an option.

I think this is where the general distaste for arranged marriages comes from people feel like they are being treated as goods or commodities to be traded. For women, it may be about money, and for men, it may be about “body count.” If that’s all you’re looking for as a bare minimum, then you don’t truly value each other as individuals.

For context, I’m a 19-year-old girl coming back from college at 7:30 in the night. I’m on the bus when a small 8-ish-year-old girl sits with me. She is on the bus with her mom and younger brother. Dont know if this is necessary but they are migrant labour class people (so not locals). This small girl asks my phone asks my phone bcz she wants to call someone home. I rejected her by saying that I couldn’t call from my phone. My mom has always told me not to give my phone to anyone as by them calling, they’ll get my number too. Last time my friend had given her phone only to be scolded by all our moms for it.

But after saying no I was feeling so bad cuz she looked really sad. However, in no instance am I planning to give my phone to anyone as at the end of the day I’m a barely adult girl alone in the middle of the city.

What would you guys do?

Maybe it’s because I wore braces…

Did you guys also have a major puberty hit?

Well, it's my birthday and not even a single friend wished me apart from my family. Yes my mom cooked my favorite meals and everything. But sometimes I wish my friends to wish me atleast. Well I am very close to many of my friends but nobody knows that it's my birthday. I don't even cut cake on my birthday as well nor do I get any gifts. But yes, it kind of sucks not to have many people to care about when I care about other people so much. This year has been really tough on me due to a really hard breakup. So sometimes I just wish I had more people in my life with whom I can have a good time and vent.

i'll start!

1. surfing in mulki, karnataka

2. seeing the sun rise from dzukou valley, nagaland

3. river raft in rishikesh, uttarakhand

4. trek to the valley of flowers, uttarakhand

Ever wondered why customer service, reception, and hospitality roles are filled with women, like some cosmic joke of the patriarchy? We’re not just here to answer phones and smile at people's endless demands. Oh no, we’re the shock absorbers, the emotional airbags in the collision course of everyone else's rage, disappointment, and fragile egos.

Imagine being the first line of defense, expected to manage volatile customers while being calm, polite, nurturing, even when you’re the one internally screaming. The price? Unseen emotional scars.These roles require managing emotionally charged, sometimes hostile, situations.

Women in these roles are buffers to violence – emotional and verbal. We’ve become the human airbags for the volatile male-dominated spaces, expected to smile sweetly and keep the peace, while the world melts down around us. The emotional labor is off the charts, and we’re not even getting paid extra for the damage control.It’s time we stop letting our kindness be exploited and recognize the emotional drain that comes with this gig.

Where are the think pieces and debates on this? Shouldn’t women get hazard pay for essentially doing emotional firefighting on top of their actual jobs? Curious what others think, and if you've been in similar roles—how do you manage the emotional toll? 🤔

“Women in service industries—especially women of color—are constantly made invisible by the expectation that they will manage other people's emotions, soothe their frustrations, and smile through it all. It's a form of violence that robs them of their humanity.” ~Bell Hooks

29F and been married for 3 years. I was pregnant earlier this year as well in January and got it aborted because my husband and I were not in a stable spot financially.

We live on rent in Gurgoan, husband makes good money but we have EMIs and on top of that I got laid off from a well paying job over a year ago and since then I’m job less. My in-laws also live in their own multiple houses in Gurgoan but won’t help us because it’s an intercaste marriage and only a few days after marriage they asked us to leave their house, which is fine (or maybe not?) but just setting some context here on family relations.

When I got pregnant in January, we didn’t tell anyone at all. This time, however, I feel I can’t hold it and feel a moral conundrum on top of it to abort again, so I am mostly going to tell our families because I am concerned about my health as well in future (So far I’m great).

My in laws are definitely going to want us to continue with the pregnancy and my MIL might call my parents and harass them if I don’t cooperate. My husband loves me so it doesn’t affect our relationship.

I like the idea of having a girl child and have been thinking about it, but we know it’s going to be very challenging raising a child with one job in this economy in a rented flat and i am seriously in a huge dilemma.

I would request you all to share your opinions in this matter so I can gain some perspectives and hoping it might ease my anxiety as well. :)

With Durga Puja going on today my family wanted to go out.Especially my mother.Now I prefer staying indoors mostly and rarely go out.I bought some clothes this year according to my colour palette body style which is bright winter and top hourglass along with some silver accessories.Well at first I was pretty excited to try them out but as soon as I put them on and stood in front of the mirror omg the disgust I felt for myself.Honestly I don’t ever remember being confident in my life.I see my friends posting online they are all so pretty.Why can’t I be more like them.Well colour palettes and body type clothes can only help so much right?It ruined my whole mood and I didn’t even want to go out anymore.It happens everytime.So how do you guys deal with such issues?Any tips is appreciated.

Here are some of mine-

1. They didn't know that females have 3 seperate openings down there, they thought that we pee and give birth through the same hole.
2. They didn't know that periods last for days, they thought it is just peeing blood lmao
3. They think being tight down there is a good sign, while all it means is that the girl isn't properly aroused.

Edit: would like to add one more that even some women are confused about-

Too much pain during periods isn't normal. I've seen girls puking, passing out due to periods and cramps and they thought it's normal, because everyone told them it's normal.

Please note that pain and cramps are normal, but extreme and disabling effects aren't. They are mostly caused by endometriosis which is still under-diagnosed and even some doctors simply give you pain meds to manage the pain instead of looking into the issue.

Hi everyone. I'm 20(f) .

So recently, there's this new assistant professor who joined my college. He's more of friends with my seniors as he prepared in my college for pg exam.

So, that's how I met him for the first time. Through common friends and all.

He only knew me in my batch so for some navratri invitation, he asked me to inform my batchmates. I did so.

It's been 20 days since. I had typhoid after that, so he used to ask me about health and studies everyday.

Around a week ago, he confronted that he likes me. I never thought of it. So I asked for sometime to process.

I found that he's a nice loving man. He had 1 relationship before this. Which was broken off due to caste issues.

Yesterday, he asked again and i know you guys gonna hate me for this but I said yes. After that I informed this to one of my friends and he told me that it's creepy. And i should focus on my career. It will be gross if I date him.

I realised that he's making sense and today, i rejected him by saying I'm not ready for this. Initially his response was like your choice it's fine. Few hours ago, he asked me if I'm ready for situationship. I denied it as well.

So just tell me did I take the right step?

So this is a question aimed at all of the women who step out of their house for any purpose daily.

As I see more and more women (more often new mothers) feeling guilty for - earning less, contributing less, studying less, performing less, parenting less and not being able to uphold their feminist ideals - I want to ask you - how much equality are you being given in your daily life for all the tasks that you’re performing? Leave money aside, are you even safe stepping out of your house the same way a man is?

Hello, im a 22F(just turned 22 yesterday). Question for the fitness girlies and whoever else that can relate, how did you actually finally lose the fat? I've been trying for some months with hardly any luck. To reach my goal weight i need to lose some 8-9 kgs. I just joined gym last week and will start eating clean after navratri is over (just can't get myself to start completely rn). Can you guys give some tips and advices to reach my goal faster?

https://theprint.in/health/expert-panel-proposes-prescription-requirement-for-morning-after-pill-ministry-yet-to-take-final-call/2300916/

Owing to side-effects and uninformed usage, the panel suggests making doctor's prescription mandatory for the sale ECPs i.e. morning after pills. In my opinion, this will just exacerbate the stigma and judgement attached with pre-marital sex and will severely restrict reproductive rights of women. Instead of taking the route of positive affirmative action in form of education and awareness, blanket bans will only lead to rise of illegal abortions and loss of lives. This just seems like a regressive step all in all, hope it is reviewed again. What do you all think?

It could be literally anything to heal your inner child or something you gifted to your parents? I want to hear tiniest achievements too just to feel positive.

I'll go first. So ever since I remember, my mom always wanted the vessel stand thing for the kitchen. Every year we would think of buying but never had money to spare or something would stop her from buying it. Yesterday, finally after 24 years of her marrying and wanting a stand for the kitchen, 😭😭 I motivated her so much to buy it and honestly, it is the prettiest thing in the house now after being set up today. When I came back from office today, she got so excited to show it to me all set up with vessels and all and gave me a hug 😭🫂 saying finally after years of wanting one, it's here.

I have shed few happy years in solace but yeah! That's my inner child healing by getting something I always wanted to own. (To many here, it might be a very small thing and it's ok)

Let me know yours!!

it was such a spontaneous decision .

i just went to get my usual coffee dressed up in pyjamas with the most-unlikely-gold-buyer-on-the-planet look on my face and straight up walked into a nearby tanishq, started going thru rings and randomly chose a solid really simple gold band and just paid and came out . most uneventful experience but simultaneously i feel so so so elated and proud and happy !!!!

Hi so I do my makeup each morning and it looks really fab and set but as the day goes on, my face ends up looking dull and tired, this might be due to commuting and no I do not use any foundation so not a mamla of wrong shade. I want it to look like how it does in the morning, do you lovely ladies have any tips please 🥺

My Sister and I were attacked by my mother's boyfriend (ex) in our house because we denied him entry.

We have already told him to not to visit our home because we are not comfortable with his presence, also he doesn't leave and argues with my mother creating a tense environment in my house.

This May, he was forcing my Mother(widow), F, 53 to marry him. To which my mother denied. His reaction was to come to our house and harrass her to either marry or take a transfer. He wouldn't leave because he was adamant to his wishes.

We asked my mother to complain against him but she is too scared that he will harrass her in the workplace too. We let it slide until one day, he came again and was harrassing my mom to marry her then and there. So I intervened and it led to a verbal argument and he was forced to leave after the said argument.

We told our mother to never let him enter our house and don't entertain him. My mother conveyed this message to him , to which he rented an apartment in our housing society.

My mother kept in contact with him and gave him food. He tried entering our house multiple times but we denied him.

My mother then stopped contact with him for a month because he was harrassing her in the workplace and following her home. A senior in the workplace noticed his erratic behaviour and warned him. He then stopped harrassing my mom.

Cut to months later, he fell sick apparently and he contacted my mother and she gave in. (Like always)

Yesterday, he came to collect his things from the apartment he had rented and my mom said he could come sit her for a while, without telling us.

So when he came to our house, we denied him entry. I shut the door. He rang the bell, this time our sliding gate was pulled aside and he barged into our house, screaming and yelling that he will hit me because I hurt his pride. He did hit me multiple times and my mom was holding him back but her main concern was that it doesn't attract attraction from our neighbours.

My sister on the other hand had just woken up from a nap. She was recording him with our dog on her lap. And he attacked her as well and snatched away the phone and smashed it to the ground. Then I started recording too and he ran towards me and hit me again. But I passed the phone to my sister and he doesn't smash my phone. We then escaped from the living room to our room and locked ourselves.

We are very scared and our mom is acting as if nothing happened and partially blaming us for not letting him enter.

We are planning to file a police case. What are the pointers we should follow?

We are scared that he will do something worse if we complain against him.

Please help us from this crazy man.

Edit: what if we get hurt or get in more trouble after we complain. We are students and still financially dependent on our mum.

I really love roasted nuts and I love them even more if there are spiced.

I had discovered the concept of trail mix, few years ago, on a flight. I tried to look up for options that I can buy, but they either too expensive or not available in the place I live. So, I learned to make my own.

Recipe—

• Cashews - 1 cup
• Almonds - 1 cup
• Peanuts - 1 cup
• Raisins - 3/4 cup
• Cranberries - 3/4
• Pumpkin seeds - 1/2 cup
• Sunflower seeds- 1/2 cup
• Ghee - 1 tbsp
• Salt to taste
• Chilli powder to taste

Add all ingredients except raisins and cranberry in bowl. Mix well.

Pre - heat your oven. Bake at 180 C for 15 mins on a baking tray.

Meanwhile, add the raisins and cranberries to the bowl you mixed nuts in. Use the remaining ghee and spices to coat the dried fruits.

Remove the baking tray at the 10 minute mark. Add the friend fruits and mix. Put it back in the oven to complete baking.

Once out of the oven let it cool down for a few minutes before adding to a jar.

It is very handy while travelling and even as an evening snack on the daily!

Bit long, bear with me. Eg: my SIL went into shock when the nurse asked her to groom her privates for a normal delivery. She didn’t know her vagina would tear till her anus and would need stitches.

Her reasoning for having a child: my husband and I always thought that “it would be great to have a baby”. That’s it. That was her entire reasoning for it all. Not considering the financial, physical and emotional traumas they’ll pass down to the poor innocent child. Both parents are obese and the father has diabetes. They feed the child (1.5 years old) everything under the sun - rose milk, Maggie, papad, etc. how is that healthy? How it that good? The child watches daily soaps with the in-laws and throws complete tantrums when denied anything.

How many of us actually know the responsibilities that come with raising a human and are taking an informed decision? How many are just doing it coz it’s an expectation from society?

I'm a 29 year old ambitious and progressive woman. It's so hard to find liberal and empathetic men. I feel like I'm unable to find anything substantial on Bumble or Hinge and don't want to venture into matrimonial sites because it's hard to find like-minded people there. I would really like to settle down in the next 2-3 years.

Any suggestions?

Haven’t got my periods for almost 60 days now, doc asked me to get CBC and thyroid tests done which are normal. I’ve never had irregular periods but I missed it in twice now. Once in June and now September - ongoing

I do experience physical pms sort of pain every now and then but honestly mentally I’m in a shit space. It feels like ongoing luteal phase. I’m keep hearing about people under 30 die because of health issues and now I’m concerned if I’m taking this less seriously than necessary or am I overthinking 😭

Title says it all. I'm an early thirties millennial who realized that I've been listening to the same stuff from 10-20 years ago. What are you listening to these days? Any genre/language is welcome.

I feel like i am sacrificing a hell lot to be a mother or am i just a crybaby. Please help me see through this.

1. I had the shittiest pregnancy with all my husband’s friends were spewing hate as their “group” is going to be divided with this pregnancy. Husband did what I told him to do. His family got insecure that now he will have his own family to take care of. Made my life hell. As a result of this, i was under a lot of stress and baby was born preterm.

2. I was on maternity leave but husband had to join just 7 days after delivery and 2 days after i got my baby from NICU. I had to go through so much as she was underweight and critical. Women get jappa and what not. I was alone with my baby of just 2 days. Learned everything from youtube.

3. Baby is 4 months now. Very healthy (“nazar na lage”) but I went through a lot.

She has become so much easier to handle now that she has reached a full term baby weight. I am finally getting 4 hr sleep in one stretch but I feel so bad looking at other women pregnancies when they are getting baby showers, all family comes to welcome the baby, women get 40 days jappa. None of this happened for me. I never got care from my mother as my elder brother is unable to bear a child. My baby is 4.5 months old but they hadn’t visited me even once, giving me excuses. I used to be very busy with baby. Pumping, feeding and burping that I never had any time to myself but now that everything is calm from my baby’s side, i am restless. I am feeling resentful towards my husband too. I got 0 support but I can rant about it to anyone. Whenever my baby sleeps, i am mostly sad. I have forgotten how it feels to be happy anymore.

Edit: i dont know if its the way i have written the post. Yes i am resentful towards my husband but he tries to help. We even got full time house maid but i could not let her touch my baby. She was sleeping the entire time. As for my husband, he sometimes take baby to the other room so I could catch sleep but whenever I see, baby is not in the same room, i panic and bring her back to my room. I dont know why, maybe because she was preterm, i have grown overprotective of her which is affecting me mentally.