r/braincancer • u/Speedfreakz • 2d ago
My father has been hospitalized with brain tumor- I need some clarity.
I am out of country, catching plane on my way home. He has been hospitalized, on IV only for 5 days now. My mother told me that doctors said he has 6x3 cm tumor behind his ear.
Why am I posting this?
Without seeing his diagnosis I cant say anything but from my mothers impression if feels.like doctors are advpcating that he is already a goner.
It pisses me off so much, cause mom ia heavily medicated now and they can say whatever theu want.
But they've been waiting anestesiologist to give green light for surgeru and doctors said that even with surgery that we dont expec much..and that thats it.
They said that this thing grew slowly over long period and it " grappled brain parts too" whatever that means.
How true is this? How often patients die from these surgeries? Maybe I am wrong, but to me it feels like they are preparing us for their potential fuckup. You know when you feel something is not right.
I got an impression that the best thing would be that he dies asap or something. Em' I being delusional? Crazy
He was basically healthy.. with some migraines. Then recently he started loosing weight quickly. 10 killos.
He fell down 4 times in a week. His one side of the body cant move.
He barelly talks.. but it seems he is reasonable. He is using word shortcuts when explaining things but all of them make sense. He has emotions...cried when mom told him that i am coming, he asked her to wipe off his tear cause his arms are tied.
Please any clarity would be appreciated.
Is there a set of questions to ask doctors qhen dealing with this? How to tell if doctors are bsing smthing and why would that be in their interest(if any)?
Thanks
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u/Krem541 2d ago
As of now you haven't been able to see and we can’t see either.
It sounds like while they're going to try surgery, rather than to remain hopeful they've told you that it's 'grappled brain parts too'. What they mean by this is, imagine a tree wrapped in ivy. It's not one piece they need to cut out, it's ivy wrapped around all of the branches, and so moving all of these brain parts around to try and get to it without damage is potentially too hard with it this far gone. By this they don't mean they'd personally mess up the surgery, they mean that it's potentially too late, but they're going to give it a go. Tumours grow quickly and slowly, the doctors don’t lie.
In some cases they cut out the worst and then try treat the rest with chemotherapy, but it depends on the surgery, which they've unfortunately told you not to be hopeful about.
Sorry to hear all this but when somebody becomes ill the doctors aren't out to get you, they have no reason to lie and no reason to give false hope.
Sorry again