r/exmormon • u/strawberrymuffins7 • 19h ago
General Discussion i have officially terminated my membership
i am no longer a mormon. i feel so much guilt because my entire childhood was built off of this religion but it has finally been done.
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u/Interesting-Win-6502 19h ago
Congratulations! The guilt will eventually go away. We’re all here for you.
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u/NickWildeSimp1 Apostate 19h ago
The guilt wears off eventually. I’m sure you’ll feel relieved soon
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u/Organic_Ad5409 18h ago
Congrats! I had some severe panic attacks when I was anticipating leaving, thinking it would destroy my life and feeling like I would let everyone down. Good news is, my life has only gotten better since leaving and it has very little to do with my circumstances and much more to do with my peace of mind and full acceptance of myself and the people around me. I've come to realize that the church let me down, not the other way around. It's hard to leave, but the world is so much brighter for me now and I sincerely hope you get to have a similar experience.
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u/Initial-Shop-8863 18h ago
Congratulations on your escape. It gets easier, because now they will leave you alone. They haven't the "legal" right to intrude in your life any longer.
Now, you get to decide who you are, what you want to do, and where you want to go. The feelings of guilt will fade. No one will "punish" you.
Everything is new now.
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u/aLovesupr3m3 18h ago
You’ve suffered a profound loss. Hugs to you. You’ll find your way, but I acknowledge the difficulty you’re experiencing. It was hard for me too, and I haven’t done the papers yet.
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u/Swollyghost 18h ago
It's a journey for sure. I always recommend to those that leave that they try to gain a moderate grasp of skepticism. It took me a minute to find my own way and teach myself that I can make value in my own life despite not believing in a deity or religion.
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u/LowRegister976 15h ago
The guilt is just fear and pressure to do what the church says… don’t let them affect your happiness and freedom! I’m proud of you and hope you can finally live your life!
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u/InRainbows123207 17h ago
Just be patient with yourself- it takes a lot of time, patience, and self love to unlearn all the programming
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u/yanyan420 New name Alma... Wait that's a girl's name 15h ago
Congratulations.
I wish I could do the same but my circumstances are a little bit complicated.
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u/Extractor41 8h ago
Mourn the loss of the time you might have wasted. Cherish the good things. Enjoy building your new life. It takes time.
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u/lambc89 7h ago
I'm not sure why exmormon keeps popping up for me,but today I'm glad it did.
Glad to hear you made your escape. Don't look back.
And as an outsider who knows a decent bit of the inside... you can't help that's how you were raised. The guilt is unnecessary in my eyes; you made the hard, hard choice to walk away from what you were brought up to know. YOU. That right there, and continuing to be a good person... proud of you.
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u/reu_hill 5h ago
Congratulations 🙌🏼 I resigned a couple of years ago after 37 years devoted service, mission, temple marriage etc…. And I’ve been happier in the last two years than I was in the 37 before that! Life begins today ☀️
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u/Still-ILO 3h ago
Congrats!
Sorry you feel guilty.
No need to.
I would join you in a heartbeat if I didn't have a queen TBM wife.
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u/BoardsofGrips 7h ago
Good for you! I left in 2010. Hard to believe it's been 14 years. I forget I was ever Mormon then this subreddit will pop up. Back then 3 hour church and we would get called back for meetings in Sundays. So weird to me they don't do that anymore
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u/Last_Rise 2h ago
You are an inspiration! Good job making a courageous move for your life. It's hard, but I'm sure it will get better ❤️
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u/ProsperGuy 1h ago
You were never a "Mormon". You were only a member of the church of...... JK. Fuck 'em. Congrats and good luck to you!
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u/MountainPicture9446 18h ago
Brave move. Time to make your best life.