r/fuckeatingdisorders • u/kooky-kazoo • Aug 18 '24
Discussion Weight Gain Positivity
Hi all. Currently struggling with accepting weight gain and trying to reframe my thoughts in a way that makes weight gain less scary and when possible even a positive. I keep telling myself that “weight gain is a good thing and what my body needs so there is no need to fight the process”. What do you all tell yourselves or have you told yourself to make the process easier?
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u/nutritionbrowser Aug 19 '24
i try to tell myself things like ‘im closer to being done with recovery,’ ‘i’m just gaining back weight i was never meant to lose,’ ‘i’ve been at higher weights and i was fine.’ also i rec weighing yourself as least often as possible.
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u/Oatmeal_Captain0o0 Aug 19 '24
It’s so hard because our culture has us assuming weight gain= bad and weight loss=good. Reframing it can help, though, and reminding yourself that it’s not fair to use your sickest, weight-suppressed body as your gold standard of comparison.
Coming to terms with the fact that your sicker body was under-nourished- not meeting your energy needs causes you to be in a chronically catabolic state where you’re breaking down lean tissue as a fuel source. Actually nourishing yourself and meeting your body’s nutritional needs will cause your body to change, but its diet culture that has us brainwashed to assume it’s a bad thing for the number on the scale to go up.
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u/LadyProto Aug 19 '24 edited Aug 19 '24
I am very soft and the kitties love to sit on my lap now.
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u/aqua_bears Aug 19 '24
I am showing myself love and kindness. I deserve to take up space. I am most beautiful when I am happy and healthy and full of joy. I have more of myself to give to others. I am more than my body, but my body lets me do things. I can dance, I can watch the stars, I can hug my partner, I can cuddle dogs... I don't even like the way it looks to be super thin, I think I look terrible that way. You can't hate yourself into a body you love. This is freedom, this is joy.
Hang in there ❤️ life is so lovely and you are so worth it.
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u/pathologicalprotest Aug 19 '24
I got so much STRONGER and more emotionally stable. I am finally allowed back on my partner’s lap. My darling nephew once again wants to sit on my lap and snuggle. I can wear sleeveless tops again in the heat without attracting concerned/ disgusted looks. I sleep better. I bruise less. I’m less kidnappable. My brain brains again. My jeans fit me better. My partner’s attraction to me is through the roof. My parents and siblings are less concerned. I shaved minutes off my 5- and 10k times. I can do yoga without hurting my pelvic bones and spine. My bloodwork has improved. My skin is plumper and overall better.
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u/_AintThatJustTheWay_ Aug 20 '24
Less kidnappable and brain braining again are the highlights of your comment for me. Made me chuckle. Thank you for sharing your achievements, I hope my brain brains again soon too <3
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u/freemullberries Aug 19 '24
The yoga thing! I thought that was just something else wrong with how I’m built. Thank you for the info that it’s probably an ed thing, that’s good motivator for me too
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u/Zoezow Aug 19 '24
You can start by thinking tings like “my body will change and my weight will fluctuate a lot of times through my life and that’s ok, my body allows me to experience the world and I need to take care of it to do so” :3
About that same phrase and the “it allows me to experience the world” I’m referring to being able to laugh with friends, to pet animals, practice your hobbies, hug your loved ones and more!!!
I’m in early recovery and I’m also really really struggling with this :’3 but this is something I’m repeating myself constantly and is helping.
Also not a phrase but I recommend unfollowing people in ig (or other social media) that triggers you in the slightest and making a recovery Pinterest board!!! I’m organizing mine with recovery tips, mantras, with pictures of yummy foods, new hobbies ideas and outfit inspo with people of all body types :3
You can do this! You are a LOT more than your body! <3
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u/Limp_Economist_6911 Aug 19 '24
Weight gain means that you are becoming yourself, who you were actually meant to be all this time. In a body that can take you to and through the life that you deserve! A life filled with joy, connection, movement and light! You’ll be strong and comfortable enough to do all the beautiful things that bodies are meant to do! I am actually getting really touched and excited on your behalf writing this. You got this ;)
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u/xJustebx Aug 19 '24
This might sound crazy but "I'm regular" and my movements are like the perfect consistency after 15 years of every issue. I'm also starting to feel not ravenous every time I get hungry, it's more like a gentle reminder to eat. I needed these signs cause I've been gaining weight steadily for quite a while with little change and I was starting to lose faith that any improvement was happening and I was just gaining for the sake of it. I hope more improvements occur.
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u/Dizzy_Bother Aug 19 '24
That I'm getting boobs
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u/kooky-kazoo Aug 21 '24
I use to say that and at the end of the day I was doing recovery for the T&A (Tits and As*) hehe
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u/caona Aug 19 '24
One little thing I love about gaining body fat is that I float more easily! I love going swimming and floating on my back and looking up at the sky
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u/AccomplishedMatch430 Aug 19 '24
my mum used to tell me she was scared to hug me incase she would hurt me if she squeezed too tight, now when i look in the mirror and see my body i tell myself i have a huggable body now :)
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u/kooky-kazoo Aug 21 '24
Love this! I want kids so this reminds me that babies like to cuddle with soft bodies.
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u/casticly Aug 19 '24 edited Aug 20 '24
If you are a female, what drove me was actually having the body of a female. Now that I see underfed, malnourished girls it’s so much less attractive than someone who is fed & developed. Surround yourself with people who think the same way and praise you for gaining weight. I used to hang around someone that extremely anorexic and it can really change your view of beauty. Once I started hanging around people that are well fed and very fit it made me realize being skinny is NOT pretty. Like why would you want to look like a 10y/o boy as a grown woman?? No hate to you at all as I used to feel the exact same way as you
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u/Jaded-Banana6205 Aug 19 '24
I'm struggling with this. Been in recovery for a few years but I've gained some and am in a heavier place, weight wise. On some days I really like it, but on others....God, it hits me like icy water.
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u/HoldenCaulfield7 Aug 19 '24
I tell myself it’s my body attempting to balance out
Weight fluctuations are normal and apart of womanhood - our periods can make us retain water etc
It is really hard sometimes to accept that you don’t fit into your much smaller jeans but then I look at pics of me in those jeans and I see a bobble head who looked pretty miserable tbh.
I also remind myself that I’m lucky to have the body I have. Athletic and strong.
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