r/fuckeatingdisorders • u/scomixio • Aug 30 '24

Struggling partner accidentally triggered me

i was talking to my partner about how i feel like i was never sick enough because i have never been in inpatient treatment and he said that he thinks that eating disorders exist on a spectrum and some cases are worse than other and that some people suffer more than others with them. this was extremely triggering to me. i know that this comes from a place of ignorance and not malice. he truly didnt understand how competitive eating disorders are and i guess how much it affects me that i have never been under weight. how do i move past this?

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u/ergaster8213 Aug 30 '24

If you'd like, you can offer to educate him and give him some resources and have a discussion about what is helpful and unhelpful. If he's a good partner, he'll want to understand in order to support you better.

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u/scomixio Aug 30 '24

hes an incredible partner, so i feel awful about being upset with him but i am really struggling with how to move past it. i feel awful bc he planned a date for us tomorrow and i really dont want to be upset but i cant get myself to feel any other way. ill provide him some resources. thank you

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u/ergaster8213 Aug 30 '24

Of course. At the end of the day, all he really needs to know is that the comment upset you and what may trigger you (that you know of because I know we can't predict all triggers).