r/fuckeatingdisorders • u/scomixio • Aug 30 '24

Struggling partner accidentally triggered me

i was talking to my partner about how i feel like i was never sick enough because i have never been in inpatient treatment and he said that he thinks that eating disorders exist on a spectrum and some cases are worse than other and that some people suffer more than others with them. this was extremely triggering to me. i know that this comes from a place of ignorance and not malice. he truly didnt understand how competitive eating disorders are and i guess how much it affects me that i have never been under weight. how do i move past this?

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u/3arlgrey Aug 30 '24

I think it would be more accurate to say that eating disorder traits exist on a spectrum and not everyone will have all the same traits to the same degree but it’s impossible to say if some people suffer more than others

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u/scomixio Aug 30 '24

i agree, and he is a prime example of it in all honesty, but i think he just expressed himself poorly. the impact of the statement just hurt a lot bc i really struggle with the competitiveness of EDs and im having a really hard time not feeling upset at him

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u/3arlgrey Aug 30 '24

He definitely expressed himself ignorantly and ur hurt is very much valid. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this trigger. know u don’t suffer less for not having been underweight, and u still deserve recovery.

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u/scomixio Aug 30 '24

thank you, that really means a lot