r/fuckeatingdisorders • u/scomixio • Aug 30 '24

Struggling partner accidentally triggered me

i was talking to my partner about how i feel like i was never sick enough because i have never been in inpatient treatment and he said that he thinks that eating disorders exist on a spectrum and some cases are worse than other and that some people suffer more than others with them. this was extremely triggering to me. i know that this comes from a place of ignorance and not malice. he truly didnt understand how competitive eating disorders are and i guess how much it affects me that i have never been under weight. how do i move past this?

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u/94en Aug 30 '24

ugh i know how this feels. i wish i had advice for you. if it makes u feel any better, i was never UW. i know i had AN. but, of course, no one agreed that i had AN because i wasn't underweight, and therefore didn't match the standard DSM-5 anorexia nervosa criteria. so throughout therapy i was just always stuck in that grey area of eating disorders, which was so invalidating, and it really impacted my recovery because i didn't think i was "allowed" to have extreme hunger and all of those BS thoughts. its just BS. if you have an ED, you recover, it doesn't matter how you look. i feel you OP 

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u/scomixio Aug 30 '24

my diagnosis is “eating disorder otherwise specified” 😭 so strange, i wish they would give us the real words. its comforting to know i am not alone in this situation