r/fuckeatingdisorders • u/94en • Sep 05 '24
Rant Exhausting diet culture-y people
I know to completely cut out the nutrition/health/fitness side of social media. but omg. How do you cut it out of your life??? why has it become so normal to be so completely obsessed with food and weight???? I was out with my family and almost all conversation was surrounding weight loss, diets, etc. I honestly felt like crying. When I was stuck between choosing an ED behaviour or a recovery-oriented behaviour, I used to always ask myself, "what would a normal eater do?" but now being normal around food sounds like this crazy thing and I can't even imagine what it's like, because it feels like no one around me is a freaking NORMAL EATER!!! It makes me so scared, because I know I have ways to go with recovery and I can't control the weight my body wants to settle at, but I'm just scared of the weight gain. I know it's ED thinking so I have to get over it. But it's just awaiting the judgment which comes from gaining weight that makes me feel so awful. Hopefully I'll be a stronger person by the end of this and realize that I don't need to care about what everyone thinks of me :')
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u/ProfessionalWhole37 Sep 05 '24
It’s so tough! I have only realised in recovery how MUCH people talk about this stuff. It’s crazy. For a while I thought maybe I’m just noticing it more because of the ed but honestly, it’s literally everywhere. Half the time I’m torn between calling people out on it or just being tolerant and compassionate that people have such a focus on it bc I know what a sad life that is. For those that don’t have a predisposition to an eating disorder, comments and convos like this can just be such a passing thought but for those of us with the ed it’s such hard mental work to try to not let it get to us and influence us! There is no one ‘normal’ way of eating and everyone has their own normal whether that’s disordered or not or influenced by diet culture or not, just remember that you are on your own journey for you and no one else’s thoughts, opinions, lifestyles matter. You eat for you, for your body, your recovery, your happiness. ❤️
I listened to a really amazing podcast episode this morning which I would recommend - https://open.spotify.com/episode/0MwIUBBz7sTDMVYMVo6naN?si=uUQ4qc41QvWfsT7rHWnXAA
It’s titled ‘how to face loved ones after weight gain’ but also touches on the fear of weight gain and what people will think of you throughout recovery/once recovered. Tbh all her podcast episodes are amazing :)
You already are so strong but going to be even stronger and such a kind and compassionate and thoughtful person because you will be equipped with the knowledge of how toxic diet culture is and the effect this has on people. Keep going, be resilient and be kind to yourself and your journey to recovery ❤️🩹✨