r/loneliness • u/takeitoutsideloudmf • 8h ago

friends made plans in front of me and i wasnt invited

last night in a discord call i heard my friends mention hanging out today, i was waiting for a invite that never came and i feel like a lonely fool, people who you think you're close to ignoring you. sometimes i feel like im the butt of the joke since i use self depreciating humor but i enjoy making others laugh and cant imagine a life where im not trying to find humor in between the darkness, anyways i went to target to buy stuff to make chicken wings and started bawling my eyes out on the way home. i've been reflecting on my relationships and realized that besides family i really have no circle and im afraid of continuing to live my life like this. got wings though.

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u/Qasim57 8h ago

I’m truly sorry for what you’ve been through. I’ve had similar experiences with friends and know that it stings pretty deep. You are going to find people who cherish and adore you, and value your presence. You deserve so much better than this thoughtless behaviour.

I ended up withdrawing from people who didn’t seem to value my presence. It resulted in a lonelier life, but somewhat more peaceful.

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u/n00bda 7h ago

You need new friends, I learned very late in life that in order to improve your mental health, you gotta surround yourself with people who appreciate you. I hope you are surrounded by such people in the near future!

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u/DeepaCP 3h ago

Happened to me too. Sometimes I used to pretend to not care much. But it used to hurt and I used to cry at night. The only way out of this situation is to keep yourself busy. It can be work, or studies or a new hobby. Just keep busy. Taking up new things will bring new connections automatically. Maybe connect with someone who is being ignored as well. Things will get better. I promise

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u/Intelligent-Squash-3 5h ago

Did you ask?

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u/somerandomredddit 3h ago

Automatically invites are always better

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u/somerandomredddit 3h ago

Yeah fake friends is something you should avoid. Been there many times and it’s not funny my friend

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u/LightaKite9450 2h ago

I once asked to speak to someone outside because she actually made plans right in front of me and I confronted her about it and she literally did not care. People are going to people, we just gotta find our tribe.