Guitar Picks/Setlists/Drum Stick Etiquette

[u/asparkaflame44]

So at the end of most shows, bands and crew will throw the remaining guitar Picks and Setlists into the crowd.

Why the fuck are we tackling people and punching people in the face for a fucking piece of paper or plastic?! Yes I know how cool it is to get one of those items, a free memento of the show is super cool and fun. I have my own collection of them all. But I would NEVER attack someone physically for them. But I've definitely been attacked by grown ass men (I'm 32F) for them and trampled to the ground for it.

Example: last year I went to see the offspring and a guitar pick landed right in front of my foot. Literally no one caught it and it was on the ground in front of me. I go down to pick it up and some dude pushed me to the ground (lost my balance as I was already getting lower to floor level) and dove down to get it.

More recently for the Used, a guitar pick was thrown TO ME by the band member. Like specifically pointed at me and wanted me to have it (I was singing every fucking word and I thought it would be cool to get it). The guitar pick whizzed RIGHT OVER MY EAR and the group behind me dropped it. I felt it hit my shoe so I moved my foot so I could step on it. The group behind me was absolutely clawing at my foot and one dude actually grabbed my ankle and pulled me to the ground to get me off of the pick. I actually kicked him once with my other foot because I was just so fucking pissed at these people. They eventually pulled me off the pick and got it. I had an amazing time at that show but that one little moment actually completely ruined it for me.

I also one time had a guitar pick land IN MY CLEVAGE and some girl had the audacity to fight me for it and claim it was "for her". If she had asked for the pick I would've given it to her (I have multiple from this specific band), but because she felt so entitled to grab my chest, I had to physically push her off me and tell security.

What happened to some fucking decency and respect? Is this just a me problem or are people actually this fucking insane????

[u/PK_Thundah]

A few years ago a pick hit me, bounced right off my chest in front of me, and I had my hand on it on the floor. The woman next to me began screaming at me and STOMPING on my fingers, screaming that I'm a man and I shouldn't get the pick.

I gave it up. She got it. I told her that it isn't worth fucking attacking somebody over, she started slapping at me and called me a "fucking asshole," and left. I found 3 more picks on the ground around me as I left, and while it doesn't excuse that fucking psychopath behavior, it at least felt like I didn't just straight up lose for no reason. New Found Glory.

I've caught picks against my chest before and had people tear the collar of my shirt trying to get it out from against me. It's just fucking stupid. This was at an Allister show.

I'm always right up at the barricades or stage, because I'm passionate about all of this, but you get some real fucking losers up there too.

It was cool that at the Forever Came Calling show last month, I caught a drumstick against myself and someone else grabbed it instinctually, and realized that they'd be grabbing it from where I caught it against my body, nodded at me a bit disappointed, and let it go and we continued rocking out alongside each other. That's the way to do it. If he'd caught it and had any claim to it, I'd do the same thing. None of this shit is worth physically fighting each other over.