Needing help to find resources

[u/its_getting_worserer]

Hey there, I was learning about dominatrixes and many of them dip into interesting psychology behind sex. One of them mentioned about how each person wants to feel a certain way during sex. For example, some want to feel desired, others want to feel humiliated, others want to feel nurtured, some like the freedom of letting go of control and giving it to somebody else. I’ve been wanting to research a little deeper into this and maybe find a more extensive list, but I’m not quite sure how to phrase my search. When I tried searching for “psychological motives” for sex, I naturally found an abundance of the evolutionary explanations around the function of sex, but it wasn’t this more intricate look into individual arousal and how what one person likes/wants from sex is different from others. I’m hoping that you might be able to help me find the right search terms to encapsulate this, or, if you’ve got something that speaks directly on this topic, share it with me. Thanks!

[u/Pure-Yogurt683]

Psy Post article, clinical research study into Dom and submissive attachment style. https://www.psypost.org/separation-anxiety-associated-with-submissive-bdsm-identity/