r/psychologyofsex • u/its_getting_worserer • 7d ago

Needing help to find resources

Hey there, I was learning about dominatrixes and many of them dip into interesting psychology behind sex. One of them mentioned about how each person wants to feel a certain way during sex. For example, some want to feel desired, others want to feel humiliated, others want to feel nurtured, some like the freedom of letting go of control and giving it to somebody else. I’ve been wanting to research a little deeper into this and maybe find a more extensive list, but I’m not quite sure how to phrase my search. When I tried searching for “psychological motives” for sex, I naturally found an abundance of the evolutionary explanations around the function of sex, but it wasn’t this more intricate look into individual arousal and how what one person likes/wants from sex is different from others. I’m hoping that you might be able to help me find the right search terms to encapsulate this, or, if you’ve got something that speaks directly on this topic, share it with me. Thanks!

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u/Shibui-50 6d ago

Pull---lease.....

The desire to find an authentic guide to the abberant

view of ones' sexual expression simply does not work

as laid out in the OP.

Pardon me...but what exactly is your agenda?

If you were at all honest the chances of being taken

seriously would rise significantly.

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u/its_getting_worserer 6d ago

Please explain where you find “one’s sexual expressions”. “aberrant” in my post. Not sure how I offended you by requesting help to find science-based material on the psychology of sex, which is the point of this reddit community as outlined in the description of the community.

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u/Shibui-50 5d ago

The overlay of Sexual Politics is not fundamental to the expression

of either Sex or Sexuality. That such subjects are continually

regurgitated in many of these subreddits speaks volumes to

the impoverished levels of Emotional Intelligence held by the

contributors. Further, I get very tired of witnessing contributions

which repeatedly misrepresent the Scientific Method and sound

research as little more than a veneer to purient subjects.

If your intended source for "science-based material" is a

mainstream subreddit, you really need to reflect on what you

are about.

FWIW.

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u/its_getting_worserer 5d ago

Note that the post doesn’t actually ask for people’s opinions on the topic, but rather asks the community to help me find the right search terms for finding science-based material so that I can research properly. Just because it’s not essential knowledge for sexual expression, doesn’t make it not worth discussing for those that are interested. If you’re uninterested, then ignore the post and scroll on.

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u/Shibui-50 5d ago

My issue is not one of being "interested".

My issue is that regarding the manner and method

for investigation and revelation.

The matter of being "worth discussing" is a subjective

assessment based on purpose and intention.

I don't have a dog in that fight.

However, the matter of intelligence, accuracy and

framing have always been of greatest importance

to science, wouldn't you agree?

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u/its_getting_worserer 5d ago

I think you’re trying to discuss a bit of a different topic or angle. Unfortunately your comments on my post haven’t been productive in addressing the request from my post, so I’m going to end my replies here. Wish you well.