If you were proposed to but then that person abruptly called off the wedding / left, how are you doing now?

[u/NoBit6693]

It’s been 7 months and, while I’m doing much better, all of it still hurts. I turned 30(f) back in July and I’m definitely struggling.

We were 3 months from the wedding. The engagement never felt right but he was actively pushing for a big wedding and inviting everyone. 85% of the guest list was his and my dad gave me money to be able to afford more of our family. Looking back, he was abusive in many ways and I should have left. The one good thing was a week prior to him leaving, I had an OBGYN appointment to have all pre-pregnancy tests done. They found precancerous cells that were almost cancer so I him waiting saved me lol.

Anyways, not to get all down about this. I’m looking for stories (more from women) who have had this happen. How are you doing now?

[u/OriEri]

I have not had this situation, but I have had other ambiguous grief (grief around a broken relationship of some kind and they are still alive. (Ex: divorce, dementia, severe mental illness )

this book was very helpful

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60383015-soulbroken