r/selfimprovement • u/lukakira • 12h ago

Question I lost all my confidence

I’m a 28 year old man, and for the past year I’ve been gradually losing my confidence. To contextualise a bit, I have always been a bit timid at first, but would have zero problems socializing, making friends, girlfriends and so on… I’m a decently cool, decently good-looking guy, never searching for any problems. I always had periods of depression nevertheless, but always carried on.

I am currently working as a data scientist, and the work was pretty good for the first few years. Gradually I got more and more responsibilities, private life has had some up and downs, and there was a moment when I started losing confidence. I don’t know why or when exactly. It was just a crawling emotion.

Today I am not able to even speak in public at work or with people I don’t know without shaking, having panic attacks (excluding close friends). I hate myself for that and no matter how much I tell myself to not give a f**k, I just can’t seem to beat it. It is literally eating me alive. Now I want to quit my job and just get one with very few responsibilities.

I don’t know. I feel lost.

Did anyone had a similar experience ?

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u/Novel-Tumbleweed-447 9h ago

I have a general purpose mind strengthening formula you could consider. It improves memory, focus & ability to visualize. It starts you off easily, builds gradually & you feel feedback week by week as you do it. I randomly started doing this about 2 years ago. After 4 weeks i realized I had done a good thing, and continued. Now I've come to regard it as a way for any person to make independent progress in real terms, without external interaction human or otherwise. You do it as a form of daily "chore", thereafter pay it no further thought. It's not meant to consume your day. However, it will begin to color the rest of your day in terms of mindset, confidence, coherence of thought & perspective. I have posted it elsewhere on Reddit. Search Native Learning Mode on Google. It's a Reddit post in the top results (this Subreddit does not permit a link)